Why do (some) women say that in a relationship looks and money are not important? Its the personality and whats inside. Yet, if your not good lookin' they wont give you a chance to see your personality or whats inside. Is this just a big lie? Is the looks and money the main attraction? BE HONEST!!
2007-02-28 14:47:03 · 37 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
looks and money are what initially attract a woman...most of us are just that shallow...HOWEVER it really is the personality and whats inside that decides whether we stay with that person or not....
2007-02-28 14:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by rachel123go 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Me",
I wonder where you got the "notion" that women say 1 thing then turn around next and act the opposite!
It's not a big lie at all! You can ask all of us this question and get many different answers, you know!
You have to realize it is natural for us to be attracted to "looks", just as guys are attracted to girl's looks. face it, "looks" stand out. Unfortunately, guys AND girls alike, and let me stress the word, SOME , have a big ego to go with the looks and don't have such-a-so-great personality, either, SO, it's fair to say the "not-so-good-lookin" people are out there just as much as the stuck-on-themselves "ego" people!
Now, to me, looks ARE the main attraction, but I was always willing to meet a "nice" guy............I mean, he didn't have to be a HUNK, but when I was dating, looks played a big part, but I was attracted to the personality, as well, and the friendliness.
Money, well I was never obsessed with it, so wasn't a factor in meeting a guy. Yeh, a good thing though is for a guy to be financially stable and I think that's all a lady would ask for, but loaded with money, NOt that appealing to me bcuz $$$$ isn't everything!
That's my honest opinion. every lady is different.
2007-02-28 15:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay in all honesty I found myself to be treated better than the guy you would consider to be ugly. But almost all women wants a guy that can show them things they may never be able to do themselves, might be the main reason for most females anyway. But I am not so big on trying to count a mans pockets, i personally like to connect on a more social and emotional level cause after you get those two everything else will fall into place.
2007-02-28 14:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by poohpooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality is the most important trait but being honest I think that there has to be some physical attraction in most relationships. You could reverse the whole situation here also because guys usually are very critical of women and the way they look (be honest).....
2007-02-28 14:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by sydney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank god that we all have different taste in looks or we would all be chasing the same person. I think that it is true that if someone is not attracted to a person physically then they don't want to date him/her. But what one person thinks is good looking another may not. But I think its true that whats on the inside does count tool. And if they have money then that is a plus . I think looks is the first main attraction, yes.
2007-02-28 14:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personality is most important to most women BUT if you are shy and not confident...then women won't be able to enjoy how adorable you are! Ever notice that most comedians are unattractive...why do you think that is? Because that is the way they compensated for their looks. Most overweight guys are also funny?? coincidence??? I think not!
Also about the money thing, younger women will overlook money, older women usually won't. As women age they start to seek out security and "personality"... young women just want "cute" and they don't usually care about money because they can "live off of love!"
Don't be frustrated, there are many girls out there who feel overlooked for the same reason you do...and guys do care way more about looks than anything so imagine how screwed they are!!!! Be adorable, confident, and funny and girls will pay attention. Promise :) good luck tiger.
2007-02-28 14:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by katiebug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do (some) guys who get rejected seem to automatically assume it's due to their looks? Does it ever occur to (general) you that perhaps the woman simply didn't feel any spark/chemistry? Attraction is based on more than appearance and if both people aren't feeling it for each other, then there's no point in pursuing anything.
Do looks matter? To some degree, sure they do. They are part of overall "attraction" and as stated above, we humans tend to be drawn to those we are attracted to...however "chemistry" isn't all about looks. I've been VERY attracted to some men who were not good looking men....I wouldn't have given them a second look if we'd passed on the street, but when I had the opportunity to know them even a little, there was something there that hooked me and kept my attention, in spite of them not having a great looking face or gorgeous body...
Money? *shakes head* It's great for sure, but I work and make my own....I don't date for money, but he'd better have enough to support himself or I'm not interested (cuz I'm not supportin' him).
2007-02-28 14:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want good sex and fun, looks and money are everything, it just doesn't last. If you want a lasting relationship, be good friends, hang out and then when the attraction begins it will last a good long time. I can say this after 21 years of this kind of relationship. All my other hormonal relationships fizzled out, got boring after the sex got to be dull. But my 21 years are still hot and heavy 'cause he's my best friend too.
2007-02-28 14:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, the women who say one thing, and mean another, are something else-I won't say what, except shallow. It is true, that there are women who care more about the personality and what's inside than looks and money. Honest. Hope this helps. Take care.
2007-02-28 15:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres an honest answer: looks are important but only to a certain degree. ive dated not so handsome guys that were really fun to be around. and just recently i broke up with a guy who was very attractive in the face and had a hot bod-but was really immature and had a sucky personality.
Money is important, but the guy dosent have to be rich-just financially responsible. if a guy is broke and just starting out, thats cool. but if a guy drives a really nice car, wears cool clothes, yet still lives with his parents-well that sucks.
2007-02-28 14:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I just think that SOME women SAY that to not look like a gold digger, but they just want the cash and good looks. Others will go for the personality, but they dont want to have to be around somone who they cant stand looking at. Money is also like a security thing too. They dont want to have to always worry about money problems with themselves and/or their bf. THen there are the ones who go for the personality no matter what. These are hard to find...
This is wat I have seen throughout my (short) life.
2007-02-28 14:57:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋