what psychological phenominon can be attributed in my case ?

Question

I am good at maths, science, driving, i also like to do these things.
I am not comfortable with strangers, but i like some one to take around, whom i can believe.
I am very bad at taking decisions, recently i took a car, later i figured out that it costed me $3000 more than it should.
What could i do to become more social and comfortable with others.

people around me always say that i dont know how to take care of myself.

Answer 1

It doesn't matter what others think--Do you think you can take care of yourself? That's what's important. If the answer is no, get to the library and do some reading in the self-help section.

One of my sons is a computer whiz, excels at video games, is a great driver, and is generally quite bright. However, he has only a few real friends--and they are ones who share his interests in the above. He is not interested in making friends who have dreams and goals that differ from his.

Becoming more social and comfortable others is also in the self-help section of the library. Read up on positive affirmations, self-esteem, self-confidence, etc. There's a whole lot to read about in that self-help section of the library.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Anti-social disorders manifesting within a person can sometimes force them into areas where they feel most comfortable, but are less socially 'acceptable'. Think of the loner who congregates with a small group of friends to play D&D. Because D&D is considered more of a 'fringe' social engagement, less people join, which means they don't have a wide enough circle to practice social skills on.

Social skills are those that mostly build upon common ground in terms of activities and gatherings. Learning new skills, engaging in new hobbies or activities, thus increases the likelihood of meeting more people. The downside is if you engage in a hobby or activity simply to meet others and not for the activity itself. Human bonds form out of mutual acceptance and understanding; if you don't much like botany, becoming friends with a confirmed botanist will leave both of you with little to talk about.

Why dont you try engaging in clubs and activities related to the things you are good at. There are alot of math and science clubs all over, especially on the internet, and developing familiarity with others you are most likely to be the most comfortable with (and have the most in common with) will help you develop the skills to widen your circle, if you so choose to do.

As for being bad at making decisions, the internet is a great place to learn about any decision you might be making. On some website, someone has the answer you are probably looking for, or can point you to the one who can. eBay is great for buying and selling stuff (especially if you can't find it anywhere else), google is great for looking up information, and Yahoo answers even creates a public forum like one gigantic help desk, where all the participants are also the employees.

You can't be comfortable with others unless you are comfortable with yourself, or at least its very difficult to do. If you work on being attentive to yourself, you will bring others to you.

Answer 3

This seems like a very severe case of normality. Yes, it strikes the best of us. Don't worry about it, you don't have anything "wrong" with you. It's a touch of hypochondria.

Answer 4

if you feel good about your self others will notice