I have a girlfriend of three years. She has a so called boyfried for 6 years. She spends 98.9% of the time with me. She "claimes" she loves me and I have always told her that "You can not love both of us. I have attempted to break up with her and move on with my life. She "claims" that she can deal with me having another lover in my life. But she doesn't want me to leave and forget about her. She "Claims" that I will have to juggle both my new lover and her as well. What in the world ever happen to R.E.S.P.E.C.T. and REAL LOVE??? "Made famous by Aretha F. & Mary J.B.
2007-02-28 14:36:53 · 11 answers · asked by mocharvelous1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i've never heard anyone do that before. In my opinion, if she really loves you and wants to be with you then she would leave the other person. If she has two lovers, who knows how many other people she may have on the side (f*ck buddies and such)
2007-02-28 15:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't respect you in the least if she has been carrying on an affair the entire time the two of you have been dating. Of course she says she could handle it if you have another lover, she has never had to go through what you go through and she seems to have an underdeveloped sense of empathy. If she hasn't broken it off with this man yet you should not expect her to, and you shouldn't stay in this relationship any longer. I know it's easier said than done but you may not ever find respect and real love if you don't discover them in yourself first. You do not deserve to be treated like this. It's disrespectful, controlling and, in my opinion, downright mean.
2007-02-28 15:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get angry with this girl just because she is a little confused. Try to understand her situation. She has two people she cares about and wants to stay with both of them. What she needs to do is decide who she cares about more, but that isn't something she can be forced to do. She has to decide on her own. Make it clear that you won't stay in a relationship like the one she wants.
2007-02-28 15:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by spellcaster_aura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need someone who wants a proper relationship and stop seeing her, romantically at least. She's taking advantage of you. If you want R.E.S.P.E.C.T. and REAL LOVE then it's up to you to stop taking crap from this girl. There is better out there.
2007-02-28 14:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by helehelo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to try to get her to understand that it's time to move on. If she cannot adhere to this, and refuses to leave you alone, this would constitute STALKING, and can be solved with an ORDER FOR PROTECTION. Hopefully it does not come to this, and you two can work it out nicely. Good luck
2007-02-28 14:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 09:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to dump him or find another girl. You really don't need to put yourself through that. I'm sure there are plenty of other girls out there for you, just make sure they can commit to one person.
2007-02-28 14:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by roy_g_biv_83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on!
2007-02-28 15:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by San Francisco Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what i would like to know. where did the respect an love go?
2007-02-28 15:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just set her staright. you dont want to be with someone who obviously isnt completely honest with themselves. she doesnt know what she wants right now and you do.
2007-02-28 14:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋