2007-02-28 14:34:20 · 27 answers · asked by sweet kiss 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
follow him
2007-02-28 14:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by spice 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your sincere question deserves a sincere answer. My feeling is if your relationship has deteriorated far enough where you are looking for a detective then a detective is not going to help. Not to be a smart aleck like some people I don't know... have you ever seen the show "Cheaters?" Do you really want to drag out a bad situation like you see on that TV show? I know I give this as a frequent suggestion but I have to say that counseling is often a help for this kind of complicated situation. I hope if there are children, that you will seek help for them as well.
2007-02-28 14:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont need a detective, catch your husband in the act yourself... check his cell phone bill, come home early from work, offer to do it for him the next time he says he's going to the store, etc. better yet tell him you're going to visit your mom or a friend for an evening and wait around the corner to see if he leaves and follow him... sorry getting carried away, been there before, good luck!!
2007-02-28 14:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do some research on your own. You'd be suprised how many resources are out there to help you. Most will cost some money, but if you really want to know, it can be worth it. Look online is what I'd recommend. You can put a GPS on his car, track his cell phone, obtain his cell phone records and find out who he is calling. There is spy software out there to track what goes on, on your computer. Start to look for the obvious stuff first. Has he changed his every day routines? If so, what is he changing and that will give you a clue as to where to start. I did this with my wife and was able to catch her before he get physical. I noticed our cell phone bill was much much higher. I examined it and noticed we were being charged a lot of text messages. We text some but never to the extent of what our bills was for. I decided to start there and take a closer look. That night I found that she shut her cell phone off at night when we went to bed. She never did this before. So I knew she was hiding something. I woke up early and decided to check her phone. I found a name and number I did not recognize, "Ryan". She had called him the day before when I had went to the store I found and had texted him throughout the night while I was out of the room apparently. I then got online and used a search that could tell me who cell phone numbers belong to. It cost me like 9.99 to get this. I found out his name and adress. I then went in and paid 19.99 to get his a report on him. Told me his date of birth, where he lived and his previous addresses, any convictions... A lot of this stuff is available via public information. I took a few days to compile my information and gain everything I could. I then confronted her with it, she couldn't believe that I knew everything about this person. She now says there is no way she can ever do anything again without getting caught.
2007-02-28 15:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, hire a detective. Make sure he is licensed. Provide him with as much information as possible (where your husband works, what he drives, what his hours are, any known places he might be going to meet someone, etc.). A picture would also be helpful so he could correctly be identified.
2007-02-28 14:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Edward L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Check the Internet for your area and list of Private Detectives then call them and ask how much they charge. Most are not cheap.
2007-02-28 14:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Linny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is chatting an issue? Or do you mean cheating? How did you manage to spell detective correctly, but misspell "my" (it's not 'mi')? Yahoo! Answers requests posters to use spell check *wink*
To answer your question, you hire one. Look in the phone book under 'private investigator'.
2007-02-28 14:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you think he is cheating on you then the real issue is that you do not trust him. Trust is SO important in any relationship but it is critical in a marriage. Unless you are just a jealous person (meaning you are suspicious of people cheating in many relationships in your past???) then I think women know when their partner isn't being faithful. Go with your gut!
2007-02-28 14:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the website, Cheaters.com The TV show Cheaters thrives on the turmoil in infedility and airing it publically.
2007-02-28 14:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why would you get a detective for your husband chatting on you ifyou got money you can pay a dectective to find out if he's cheating on you
2007-03-04 10:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will have to hire a private detector. They will supply you with the picture or a video for a proof. It usaully cost about $300-$500.
2007-02-28 14:39:10 · answer #11 · answered by Manatee 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋