Im confident in my sexuality and that i like both men and women. I just dont know how to tell my mom, because she has had a lot of s**t happening lately.
SO should i wait awhile and tell her?
And how should i tell her?
HELP
thanks :)
2007-02-28 14:33:10 · 16 answers · asked by jinxed_pixie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
luv the youtube video!! ;)
2007-02-28 14:41:07 · update #1
i probably would wait until you decide its time to have a relationship with a same sex partner, otherwise you are just stirring up stuff, and if you are with an opposite sex partner you will only hear "see this is great your not gay"
my best friend is bi, and i admire him for his courage, you should be proud and confident!!!
2007-02-28 14:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by drezdogge 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
is your mom open to homosexuality? Even if you're confident with your sexuality, doesnt mean that she is. My mom was very open to gays, she had a lot of gay and transexual friends when i was little. I thought that if i came out to her she would understabnd, but she ended up verbally and emotionally abusing me. Now i'm looking for a place to live. But with my friend, his mom is totally for it. she even walks around the house and pretends that she's gay. You know the mom from Queer As Folk? She's like that.
There are different ways that you could tell her. If you have a good relationship with your mom then tell her in person, but if you two donttalk much, than the best way is a letter. However, if you dont get along with her, my advice is to wait until you move out to tell her. I read this book "How to Come Out to Your Parents" It's really good. It explains in chapters various ways to come out, based on you, your parents, your heritage, your religion and where you live.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 14:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was just flipping through and saw the Ellen Degeneres comment...and had to say something...
Awhile back I was chatting with my Mum (who I thought knew of my lesbonic tendancies)...and I started telling her about this episode of Ellen where Ellen comes out and is trying to tell her parents...and my Mum goes, "OMG, are you trying to tell me that you are GAY?"...so I started to laugh and was like, "Well, I really don't have a preference Mum, I'll just be happy if I find someone I really love who really loves me!" and she goes, "OMG"...and then the subject changed to something else. It was the last time we talked about it. I'm pretty sure she's in denial (especially if she didn't notice beforehand, I'm not exactly quiet about it), but at least she can't say I never told her!
2007-02-28 16:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by IamBatman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when the time is right...things such as these are hard to take depending on your personal beliefs, so don't be surprised if, when you first tell her, she is mad/upset/confused, because that will all pass. Just be upfront and honest, and give her the time she needs to adjust to the news. Everything will work out fine in the end. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-02-28 14:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by cvjade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 23:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until your more self sufficient and independent before you go off about your sexuality at such a young age.
time to get a rainbow flag eh? you go tell the world honey.
2007-02-28 14:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since your mom's going through a lot at the moment, I might put it off until you have to, such as in the event that you're going to bring a girlfriend home.
...And how to tell her? Don't play games, don't pussyfoot, just tell her "Mom, I love you and I want to tell you that I'm bisexual."
2007-02-28 14:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by a female 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she chooses to make this "another hard thing" that she is going through or not is ENTIRELY in her court. It's not your responsibility to stifle yourself. That being said, make sure you have a back up plan about where you would go if she totally flips out. The streets are filled with people who thought their parents were less homophobic than they turned out to be.
2007-02-28 14:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, it realy isnt her business to be honest. its your love life and you are the one controlling it
If you really want to share this with her and not just a need out of obligation then i suggest wait till things with her cool down and she is in a open-minded place. When she is and you are ready to tell her, just go up to her and ask her about how she feels about it and then give her you point of view on it and then tell her you feel this way because you are bisexual.
2007-02-28 14:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there never is a good time for something like this. Some times can be worse than others. If there is no pressing need to inform her now why not wait.
2007-02-28 14:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Rico E Suave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋