im in the 7th grade. i have this really good friend at my school named Meena who i always hang out with and we also have a lot in common. but the only problem is, she always kicks me and pulls my hair and smacks me. she claims that she is just joking around and she doesnt mean to hurt me but sometomes it really does HURT!!!!! For example, while we were waiting to be picked up after school today i was texting someone and she tried to grab my phone. when i didnt give it to her she grabbed my hand and dug her nails in so deep that i started bleeding. what can i do? this girl is one of my best friends.
2007-02-28 14:17:44 · 12 answers · asked by Lina =] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds to me u need to find another friend beacuse u shouldnt have to have a best friend hurt u like that and be scared to hang out with, u need to talk to her and tell her whats up and if she doesnt stop maybe find someone else who wont do that kind of stuff to u.. good luck dear..
2007-02-28 14:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this girl has hyperactivity issues and does not know how to control her impulsive behaviour. I think you should explain to her in confidence (meaning you two meet up alone one day to talk) how you feel about her behaviour. Tell her that it physically hurts you when she does things like dig her nails into your skin and you don't like it. Explain that you are concerned that doing things like grabbing your phone is going to end up with a broken phone and your parents would be mad if you broke your phone. Gently tell her you will not accept being pushed, hair pulled or smacked. Show her how friends don't do that to each other - make an example of two other girls you know that don't engage in physical battering like that. Hopefully she will listen to you. If not, and you still feel you may get through to her, then just set up a limit on your hang time with her. Tell her that if she gets physical with you again, then you are going to walk away from her and see her at some later time. Tell her you won't answer her phone calls when she does these things. Tell her she can sit alone at lunch if she keeps doing it. Be nice, but be serious when you tell her this. Perhaps if she sees that you will not hang with her when she acts so poorly, she will try not to be so physical in the future. If all else fails, then I think that you should hang with someone who will not hit or smack you. You should not feel bad after hanging with a best friend!!
Best of luck to you!!
2007-02-28 14:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had a friend that started out this way. It ended with his "friend" pushing him down the stairs. Fortunately he wasn't hurt. This is not your friend. Friends do not hurt each other. Tell her that you are not going to interact with her if she treats you this way and tell your parents.
2007-02-28 14:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like pain. You need to stand up for yourself. You tell her to stop or I can't be friends with you any longer. I don't want to be in pain, and what you do is just not funny. So, either give it up or I give you up. You don't need to be a doormat for anyone.
2007-02-28 14:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could either::
do it back to her...
tell her that you're not "f*ucking around" when you tell her to stop. (make sure to swear so she knows youre serious)
ignore her till she promises to stop.
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ohh and just remember, dont be all nice about it either when you tell her to knock it off. be strong. say stuff like "wow. you really dont know when to quit do you?" or "you have a problem.." or "i hope you dont do this to your kids." and tell her that shes an abusive friend. if none of this works, then just ditch her. she doesn't deserve a friend like you
2007-02-28 14:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jay babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be flirting ;)
But I don't know your situation, so I may be completely off.
Can you talk to her about it? I mean, if she's a good friend she should value your feelings and respect you.
If she continues hitting you after you've made your feelings known, maybe its time to find another friend.
Please don't allow this behavior to continue if you're unhappy!
2007-02-28 14:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by shelby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A best friend does not hurt you like she has hurt you. Looks like she is a control freak and jealous of you interacting with other friends. All in all, she is not one your best friends
2007-02-28 14:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by anny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop tryingto be friends with this person. What ever her problem is, she should keep her hands to herself. Hitting, smacking, and pulling it not very friendly or fun.
2007-02-28 14:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it hurts you really bad when she does this stuff to you. If that doesn't work maybe tell an adult or sibling and they can help you with that. Good Luck.
2007-02-28 14:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's sadistic and will only be encouraged to do more if you let her get away with it. Tell her to KNOCK IT OFF *****! love ya.
You have to be firm or she will just try and control you.
Good Luck!
2007-02-28 15:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋