I've been married to my husband for 5 years but we've been togethr for 10. throughout the course of our relationship and marriage it has been total chaos. We have 4 beautiful children that are caught in the middle of it. I don't want to see my children hurt, but I need to get away before i get hurt or hurt somebody. What shall I do? Please help!
2007-02-28 14:15:41 · 11 answers · asked by Blessed Diva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you tried going to a marriage counselor 1st? 10 years is a long time to be with someone and then throw it away.
2007-02-28 15:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important people to consider in your situation are your children. If you think you are a danger then you need to separate yourself from them. If you think your husband is a danger then it is your obligation to them to protect them. If you two are just going through difficult times then I think you need to think LONG and HARD about trying to make the marriage work because it will tear your children's world apart. If I were you, the first thing I would do is make a list (an honest list) of all of the ways I could be a better wife. I would start being that wife immediately. Imagine the kind of person that you would want to be around and be that. Just by changing your behaviors, you will notice a huge change in your husband.
2007-02-28 14:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the whole situation, or why you said "or hurt somebody". Do you mean him or you? If it is him, leave FAST! The children will be happy if you do. Children will feel your pain. They will feel scared and insecure when mommy is being hurt. It destroys their life. I know. As a teacher, I see it all the time.If you think leaving them in that kind of situation is good, you are VERY wrong! They need a normal stable life. They need to come home and not feel fear that they will be beaten, or have to listen to the yelling and fighting.
Don't think about who will be hurt. You need to think about the children's emotional health. Do you want them to be emotionally damaged for the rest of their lives?
2007-02-28 15:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 23:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by schwalm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T!!! Anytime a marriage or any relationship ends, someone gets hurt. And whether you believe it or not, even you will hurt even though you are the one wanting out.
2007-02-28 14:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by vegasg8r89129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
add one tablespoon down the hatch then eat refried beans with onions and rubb your self in fish it is hard to be alone even though i think i miss that person but they have not thought about me even though i thought they have all kinds of memorys of the stuff we did they dont give 2 big hershy orange floaty oil in the water about me im glad to be free of that then i think about another sick relationship i had with someone else and i think about how my heart was not into it
2007-02-28 14:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by peter w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget hurting him, just get out anyway you can. If he gets hurt, maybe he will learn from it. You owe it to the kids.
2007-02-28 14:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your spouse it WILL be better for your children in the long run!
2007-02-28 14:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, unfortunately, in situations like this, someone does get hurt no matter how much you may try to prevent it from happening
2007-02-28 14:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's Going to be hurt.. if you havent tried it- go to marriage counselling...
2007-02-28 14:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋