I feel like I signed the papers to quickly because that was what she wanted. Now she has found a new boyfriend. She says she still loves me. I no that things could work if she would give me a chance again. I can't stop loving her. HElp
2007-02-28 14:10:21 · 19 answers · asked by skipper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by tearing it out and throwing it at her!
2007-02-28 14:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Seoul Brother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar relationship as well. My ex husband and I have have been divorced for 7 months and were seperated 3 months prior to that. Our divorce was over quickly and we both regret it. He has been seeing people on and off and I have been seeing someone strictly for the last 4 months.
I dont know the reasons why your marriage didnt work. For mine it was my ex is a pot smoker, he couldnt keep a job, he cheated on me, for me I was angry all the time, had to deal with losing a parent, worked all the time to support us, and my mom hated him.
I guess if I was you I would have a serious talk with her. Ask her how serious the relationship between her and her boyfriend is. If its not then wait out there relationship. Keep in contact with her but dont be stalkerish. Just call her out of the blue to see whats shes up to and how shes been. Tell her you love her and that your sorry your marriage didnt work out. Just be honest and open with her.
I love my boyfriend. He's great. But I really dont think he's in it for the long haul. But I am very happy with him and while we are together I want to go out and have fun. Something the ex never wanted to do. I think the reason why I doubt my new relationship is because of what happened to me in the failed marriage and I dont want to go through that again.
But I could see my myself back with my ex even though we had the problems we had. There is still alot of love between us. Just be honest with her. You can also still go out and date others right now too. You have needs as well :)
2007-03-01 09:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by a_dollier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep trying. Send her flowers. Women love flowers. Why did you guys break up in the first place? Just be there for her when she needs you. Take one day at a time. Maybe try to start all over with the dating thing. If not try your best to move on with your life and get to know other people. Plus u just don't stop loving someone over night> It takes time.
2007-02-28 22:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to stop loving her, but you do have to let her go! She has the right to live her life after your marriage ended. Even if she does still love you she obviously doesnt want to be with you right now. You should try dating someone else too. You dont have to go out and fall in love with some one else, but you do need to get her off your mind. At his point your just torturing yourself! Seriously though man, you need to do something other than obsess over a relationship that has already ended.
2007-02-28 22:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Topaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,she loves you,but isn't IN love with you anymore.Big difference.The fact she is moving on by getting a boyfriend means you should follow the action.If you continue to think everything will return to the way it was prior to a divorce,you're crazy.Just move on before this drives you insane.
2007-02-28 22:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being co dependent isn't love. If you really love her, leave her alone and let her get a life. Sometimes you love someone by letting them go...now THAT is love. Clinging and whining isn't love...you just need something from her and that is probably what she is running away from.
Love from a distance and get on with your life. If she is attracted to your new found independence, she might call you sometime.
2007-02-28 22:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think you would tell her that. If she still loves you maybe there's still a chance you could mend things. Is the divorce final yet? You could still get back together whether it is or not. I hope she gives you another chance.
2007-02-28 22:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she went out and got another guy...she doesn't love you that much...I mean you didn't go out and find another girl. Plus she's the one that wanted to break up with you...she's just telling you she loves you because she feels bad about leaving you...and hurting you, but then again she really doesn't.
Now if she wasn't seeing anyone and told you she made a mistake...then I'd MAYBE believe her...but someone that really loves you doesn't keep a boyfriend.
Don't fall for her tricks because she's probably just messing with your head.
2007-02-28 22:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show up at her door with flowers and say, "I love you and wish with all my heart that I was still your husband". After you say this, pause and let her talk. As soon as she responds to what you just said you will know where your future lies.
2007-02-28 23:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start courting her again. Ask her out on a date. STart over fresh and go from there. Good Luck
2007-03-01 02:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her all the space she wants and be there (without questions) when she decides to come back around. Until then, find yourself a nice girl and have some fun for yourself.
2007-02-28 22:14:29 · answer #11 · answered by Cookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋