Ok, how do I find a wife if no women appear interested in me?

Question

I'm short, which I think a lot of women have a problem looking past. I was previously engaged, but it was also the only relationship I've ever had (I am 30). I consider myself quite handsome and I have a solid personlity. I've been on my share of dates and the women have expressed interest when I engage them in conversation. But it seems to never really go beyond a 1st or 2nd date. When selecting a woman to date, I always select the pretty but not completely gorgeous women. Women I stand a chance with, etc.

Is it possible at my height, 5 foot 3, to date women who are taller than me? Women who are my height seem to ignore me and date much taller guys, so I'm stuck dating women between 5 foot 4 and 5 foot 7. Any women above or below that range really don't give me the time of day. And when I go to bars, they either talk to me for just 5 minutes, or ignore me completely. I'm like a curiosity to them. It really upsets me, too.

Any suggestions?

Paul

Answer 1

The height thing does seem to be an issue with many girls. You may have to just keep trying until you find one it isn't a problem with. Maybe being up front about it will help save you some time. Also I'm wondering if you are continuing to ask these girls out after the first and second dates or if you are waiting for them to make a move. Girls like to play hard to get to make sure you are interested in them, and it's not just that they are the only ones interested.

Answer 2

Hello Paul,

Try dating women who are about 5 foot to five foot 5 inches tall. Try eharmony.com and put in your height requirements or something like that. Going to the bars is not the best place to meet women. Also try match.com, yahoo personals or even a local date line which may be listed in the personals ads in the paper. I wish you the best and hope that someday soon you will find a great woman with a great personality to date. You usually do not meet decent women in a bar anyways. I think you have been looking in the wrong places hon.

Answer 3

I think you are overly sensitive about your height. I have a very good Friend who is shorter than you and he doesn't have any problems like that. maybe you can take a page from his book, you can't make yourself taller, but you can make yourself bigger through weight training and Martial arts will give you a tremendous ego boost. Once you are OK with yourself, the chicks will be crowding around you. The second thing I noticed in your question is that you seem to go for very attractive women, I suggest that physically attractive women, are not attractive at all, I personally find them extremely self centred and selfish. If you want to find someone of wife potential, you have to look for a woman with the personality that intrigues you, who shares you interests but still is enough of her own person to leave you guessing sometimes. I strongly suggest that you will not find her lurking in a bar or on the computer dating scene. Just be yourself, work on your confidence and she Will find you.

Answer 4

Paul,

Try myspace or Yahoo personals. On myspace you can state your height as well as Yahoo personals. This allows women who don't have a problem with your height to get to know you a little bit and approach you. You can also look ahead of time(yahoo personals) and see what a particular woman's preferences are. There are many women out there that are not into the bar scene and also don't know how to find a nice guy. I used Yahoo personals and have found a very nice lady companion. You get to communicate with a wide range of women with different interests. Just be sure to present yourself honestly. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Have faith - it'll happen. I'm 5 ft 3 and always dated tall guys. Married one even. He was actually too tall for comfort (trying to dance, kiss/hug, walk with our arms around each other, even 'gettin busy', lol, was awkward at times because of our difference in height. When I finally started dating again, I found someone shorter (he's about 5'6") and it's amazing how much more comfortable most things are with him. I had never considered dating someone shorter (in fact I almost didn't go out with him because of his height). Now I'm so glad I did.
If you are comfortable dating someone taller - go for it. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. It's what's in your heart that matters.
Start volunteering, get involved with the community, take a class or two (community ed or college), join a group, go to church, there are lots of ways to get out there and meet people (not just women but also new friends who can help you to meet women you might be compatible with). Work on your confidence - women will be attracted to that. Don't appear desperate (we can sense it!!).
Good luck to you!

Answer 6

What do you like to do? Where do you usually meet women? Do you meet them online or through personal ads where there could be alot of smashed expectations or do you have a hobby where people (including female ones) could get to know you first before falling in love with you?

Bars are a contrived atmosphere, a literal meat market where one seeks out the best cuts. Unless you are model-beautiful, it is not where you meet quality people. I am not saying you lack looks just because you are short; many of the average to above-average types can't find love in bars either.

I struggled to meet people until I quit the struggle and just did what I loved. I took up archery and horsebackriding and met potential dates a plenty. In fact, I ended up marrying my archery instructor one year ago. My previous relationships that were based on personal ads and chance meetings always failed. However, when I found one based on mutual interests and respect, the sparks flew! When this happens, your height will not be a concern!

Do what you love and love will follow. What is it that you always wanted to learn? Stained glass? Sailing? Skiing? Go indulge! Go live! Women love men who grab life like the gift it is; they run from those snivelling in their loneliness. Even if you do not meet your love immediately or directly, meeting people exposes you to more people still!

Don't fret. There is someone out there for you. All you need to do is live. :)

Answer 7

Just keep dating and having fun your hieght is not what the problem is. It could be your just dating the wrong women. You should not go for a particular type of women. When that special girl comes into your life you will know. Try just going out and having fun. Try not to get so serious so fast and take it slow. Good luck!!!!

Answer 8

I know where alot of single women go every Sunday morning. Honestly there is alot of very pretty, single, non judgmental, healthy minded women at church on Sunday looking for a good man. I would not kid you Paul. Go get em dude.

Answer 9

Hey Dunric,
You just described my life, too. 5'-3", slightly pudgy, but I'm just
a smidgeon older than you. Most women between 5'-0" and
5'-4" are wanting guys who are at least 5'- 10", and the ones who
are taller than 5'- 5" look at me like I was a little boy. Sometimes,
it really angers me. What do we shorter guys have to do to get
dates?? ...................................Inflatables?? Naaaaaah!!

Answer 10

My advice from the quick 19 years i have been on earth might want to be to encourage her to do issues that make her satisfied, and to refer to her about the way you're feeling. You stated she is going out with unmarried pals, do you advise male or woman pals, and the position do they bypass to? If she's innocently remarkable out with the ladies, it truly is an outstanding ingredient - she's nevertheless having some type of exciting. encourage her to do inspite of makes her satisfied. Is there something she used to savour doing that she would not do anymore? perhaps she likes walking or going to the park - attempt to encourage her to bypass with you sometime. If no longer, there is continually room for brand new pastimes! even if there is something she likes to do on my own - encourage her to attempt this - it might want to get her feeling extra useful and develop her mood round you. in case you fairly won't be able to get her to bypass everywhere with you, tell her you opt for to have a communique at the same time with her. sit her down and clarify your emotions - the way you do not opt for to break up, and how you nevertheless love her and do not opt for to offer up. yet that your inquiring for her hand that could also help you - a wedding ceremony takes 2. tell her back the way you would opt for to bypass to couples counseling. If she fairly would not opt for to cooperate and would not seem to pay interest, then tell her to a minimum of keep the divorce on carry and ask her to imagine about it for a lengthy time period.