so I have this friend we used to be really close and did everything together and knew everything about eachother. then she got a boyfriend and suddenly everything changed. she only ever talks to him and never pays attention to me. like I will call her and she always makes up an excuse not to tallk to me.
I dont know whether to fight for our friendship or just give her her space and let our friendship fall apart...
2007-02-28 14:02:08 · 17 answers · asked by Jazillian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
see this has been going on for months and i have tried to talk to her about it before and she says she will fix it but she never does
2007-02-28 14:30:58 · update #1
I'd let it go...she sounds pretty selfish. if they break up, she'll wish for your friendship again. then it's up to you to decide if you're willing to go through that again
2007-03-04 09:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey... Iam so sorry bout ur friend. Hang in there it will all work out. Sometimes when u get a boyfriend u act like ur so cool cuz 1 boy likes u 4 ur looks. She will soon find out that she misses u and made a huge mistake leaving u 4 him. If u have a boyfriend u should ask ur friend 2 double date w/ u that would most likely bring ur friendship back together. Call her and when she says her excuse tell her that its very important to talk 2 her soon and u need her 2 listen. Tell her that u think your friendship is falling apart and that she is letting a boy get in the way of 2 best friends. Make sure u don't make her mad and say i hate ur boyfriend or i think u should break up w/ him just say that if she ever has some free time you'd really like 2 hang out. Hope this helps.
2007-02-28 22:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by clutzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what sometimes happens, be a friend, give her some space. If your friendship is strong it will survive this. I have been through this with my best friend when I was 16. I felt bad and left out. I let things run it's course and today (21 years later) we are still the best of friends even though we are both married with our own families. Everyone messes up from time to time but a real friend forgives.
2007-03-08 12:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..thats just the way a friend is when she has a boyfriend or girlfriend...its all about that other person, but u as a bestfriend should b there for her no matter what, u can still hang out with other ppL and have fun with them, but when ur best friend needs someone there, shes still counting on u to be there for her and help her out through hard times, and when u do that, im sure she will b there for u whenever u need her, but in the mean while just live it up! and do u..;)
2007-03-07 17:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by JB. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in their with her and be happy for her.you might even want to tell her how you feel. But in real life everything is most likely cool. It just gets like that when some one gets a man. It's like there's 24 hours in the day at first there were only two people sharing the time and now theirs 3. Just be cool and understanding and always keep it real.
2007-02-28 22:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im having this same problem. and it to has been going on for a couple months now, its hard. If i were u i would have a serious talk with her write her a letter or something. My friend hangs out with her boyfriend all the time and its getting really annoying.
2007-02-28 22:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rach12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were the one to get the boyfriend first...you would be HER NOW and understand where she is coming from. She feels all wrapped up in her new love life and doesn't seem to want to take the time for you. Her interests have changed and that leaves you out. She isn't going to hang out with you for fear of losing him. My advice is to chill out give her some time and wait and see....but, don't forget to go live a life too.
2007-02-28 22:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by missellie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to meet with her and explain your feelings. Maybe over a soda or something like that. Maybe you can come up with some type of solution to keep your friendship together. Once one friend becomes involved with a "friend" they sometimes loose site of anything else around them until its put in front of them.
2007-03-08 13:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right, I go through that all the time and my friends and I are close, sometimes you just need space, and if you guys are as close as you say you are then you will have nothing to worry about
2007-03-08 12:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up and move on. Don't waste your time. Focus on someone who has been good to you. People who stick with you are your friends. When her relationship ends she will probably look your way again... Think long and hard before you take her back.
2007-03-08 20:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by front door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋