They decided to hyphenate his and hers and use it for both of them.
Has anyone ever heard of a man taking his wife's name when married? What do you think of it? Should we be upset? Help ! the family is in turmoil over this.
2007-02-28 13:47:10 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's in a name, you should be happy that your son and his wife care so much for each other and that they are mature enough to come up with a solution to a problem they faced as a couple. If they love each other, love you when who cares what they are called.
2007-02-28 13:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I've heard of a woman keeping her Maiden name and hyphenating it before her Husband's last name, but not both.
I mean, what does this do to the geneology if they have kids?..........espcially a boy? It's gonna add a Elm branch to an Oak Family Tree!
I think it's corny and too over the top and yes, I understand the turmoil. The ramifications in the Family Tree and the Paternal vs. Maternal originations can get screwed up, and this is one of those things where people are monkeying too much with tradition again.
Let the D-I-L keep her Maiden Name for professional or personal reasons, but, I would convince your son not to take her name. It's okay to incorporate or add her Maiden Name to the middle name of a child, but, not as a surname.
The Paternal and the Maternal has it's importance for a reason, and yes, I agree it is a BIG Deal!
Too much secular left turns happening in this country!
2007-02-28 22:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I knew one man that took his wife's name fully, not hyphenated. I can see where it may upset some people, but I guess look at it this way, it's his life and she is his wife, if this is the decision they have come up with that works for them, so be it. As long as he is happy, that's ultimately the only thing that matters. I guess being female, I don't see the big deal in changing a last name. I have a son (he's only 5 though), But If he decided to change his last name I really don't think I would have a problem with it, so long as him and his wife have a good relationship.
2007-02-28 22:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My sister married to a wonderful guy and both of them has hyphenated name. I think it's not that a big of deal and i don't think it's worth it to be upset about especially when both of them agreed to it and believe (while they are in love) that they will last for the rest of their live. The problem would be if their married end. He or she will always stuck with ex's name (it can be a burden when he or she date other), but isn't it there is always something called "change your name back or swapping it?"
2007-02-28 22:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by tooweak_toohot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea long term. Inpractical for the future generations. Still, tread carefully. This IS your adult son. Express your clearly, rationally articulated viewpoint and let them decide - for good or bad.
This taking the wife's name business tends to emasculate the man.
He will lose the (manly) respect of some and have to work harder to regain the respect of people that he has yet to meet. Some will (true or not) conclude that he is a submissive man.
Still, if they are adults, once they make their final decision, whether you agree or not, you have to accept and support it as best you can.
2007-02-28 21:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens a lot. Some woman do for profession reasons, they are known as Jane doe, not Jane Smith. Others, who knows, seems to be the in thing now. Personally, i rather have one last name. Don't feel bad tho, or be upset, just wait and see whats up.....
2007-02-28 21:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, yes, I have heard of this. Quite a few of my male friends have done this and often it is a result of compromising with their partner.
Second, I do not see why anyone is upset about this. Your son has found his match and it is very touching they wish to use both their names in the public eye. If this is the biggest turmoil your family has faced, consider yourself lucky. They have made a choice and how they represent themselves in their marriage is their business.
2007-02-28 22:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jocelyn M 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Double-barelled names are very common among married women. Never heard of a man taking his wife's surname, though. My opinion is that if your religion does not restrict this arrangement and if your son is all for it, then I dont see why not.
2007-02-28 22:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have worked with a man who took his wife's last name in entirety (no hyphenate). I had no opinion of it really, it is his life and their marriage. It didn't effect me one way or the other. No you shouldn't be upset. Your son is living his life as he sees fit, and you should be proud of that. You raised him to be his own man, and he is doing just that.
2007-02-28 21:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's retarded unless he's bisexual or someting....but stranger things have happened huh? What ever came over women to think that marriage is negotiable when it comes to taking your husbands name? That's the way "families" are created! It's the way it's supposed to be!MARRIAGE is GOD'S plan, and we can't rewrite what HE expects from each party when we join in marriage according to God's plan! Right? Well, I would be very upset as a boy's parent if his bride was too good to take his name. What does that tell you about the marriage as a whole?.
2007-02-28 22:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No never heard of this issue. But for my understanding only the wife takes his last name not both. They just don't want to get rid of their other name. If this is the case then why did they marry each other.
2007-02-28 21:52:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anis 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋