What to do with a husband addicted to computer games????

Question

He plays World of Warcraft.....NONSTOP. He ignores me all the time, makes me wait hours on end, and doesn't even try to help me with our puppy! All of his friends that play are single, and he doesn't get the difference! I know everyone needs an outlet, but this is out of control. I have begged him to stop playing, but he won't. It has taken a serious toll on our relationship.....what can I do???

Answer 1

hunny my husband was addicted to the same game, i know a lot of relationships that broke up over this evil game. be patient, that is all i can tell you. you can not hide the game, i however got really pissed off one night b/c once again i fell asleep on the couch and he was on the game untill 5:30 and had to go to work the next day. well when he left for work at 6:30 and i woke up, i went and cut the cable to the computer. do not try this. when he got home and could not get online he was like "why did you unplug the computer?" as he walks over to the wall "what in the hell did you do?!" this was the most pissed i have ever seen him. yes, over a game. he went that night to best buy bought a new one. i accomplished nothing! and had a very pissy husband!when the get to the point to max out their character i think 50 or something it will slow down. he used to come home from work and go play untill late. i was sleeping on the couch every night. we made a pact that he could play everyother night when i got so beyond pissed! he still usually got on after i went to sleep. you may try that, this game literally takes over them. no one knows untill they have been there and seen how addicted men get to it. ride it out sweetie! don't get a divorce like all these crazy ppl say. it gets better over time, just be patient, now my husband plays like once a week if that. e mail me anytime you feel like venting, i understand! join the women wow haters!

Answer 2

I used to play online games a lot and my girlfriend had problems with it. What is strange, is that the player has no idea that so much of their life is really slipping by, until life catches up. Needless to say, we had a lot of problems after a while. Eventually I stopped and it was good. Then I picked up World of Warcraft and I have to admit, that it was the most addictive thing that you can ever be addicted to. The problems got worse but I noticed them even less. Eventually I stopped playing that and life has been better than it has ever been.
I will tell you this... If my girl had a problem when I was really into it, then we wouldn't be together anymore. I would have made a terrible mistake but at the time I was a drone. Believe me, doing anything negative can cause you greater harm than you think you might be inflicting. It is almost like temporary insanity that he is going through. Only he can determine when he is going to stop. I can assure you of this much. If he really does love you, he'll find time to stop. I know I found time for my love and stopped.
I still play games on the Xbox 360 when I get the chance but that is more of a distraction or relaxation than an all-consuming addiction like World of Wacraft. I vowed never to play another MMO, and I haven't.
Also, it isn't just the husbands who are addicted. I have heard horror stories from married men about their wives who wouldn't pay attention to them nor the kids because of the game. It's scary.

Answer 3

sabotage the computer. is it an internet based game? dont pay the internet bill. download viruses. lose the CD if it is required to play the game. better yet, let the puppy chew the CD. Take away the mouse for the night and hide it in your pants so he has to look for it. poke a hole in the flat screen monitor. take away the speakers. remove a couple of keys from the keyboard.

---or if you want to be civil ( can you tell i have gone through this?)

just leave the house while he is playing and dont say anything. go shopping. let him wonder where you are. he will have to get up when the puppy needs to go potty. stay out for awhile. if you have to do this for 4 nights in a row, do it. this will get his attention. then when he asks where you were, you can say something about the gaming. just dont use YOU do this and YOU do that. say I am lonely, it hurts MY feelings, and so on. dont tell him what he does wrong, tell him how it makes YOU feel.
good luck !!!

Answer 4

Tell him that if he is interested in staying with you that he needs to cut back and spend more time with you. I don't mean that you should try to control him but maybe you both could agree on some type of time frame that would good for both of you so you can do your stuff too. If he doesn't try to compromise about this and doesn't take it seriously then bye and move on and find someone else. I went through similar thing with ex involving being glued to a TV every time we were home together and it caused problems because she didn't want to make a compromise so I eventually just told her forget it along with other reasons.

Answer 5

Your husband has a problem and so does your relationship. That game is not so healthy to be doing all the time. I would hide the game and speak to him quietly and ask why he is unhappy with his realationship with you. Try to have a dinner out, or 1 day a week.
Ask him to keep it to 2-3 days a week still too much. Keeping up this much time on a game he needs help!!

Answer 6

I would give him an ultimatum. Either he agrees to pull his weight in the relationship, or you're out. I would be really specific, too--like, exactly what you want him to do with you, how much time on the computer is too much, etc. That game can be really addictive.

Answer 7

Get your own addiction...to something legal. Go shopping. Go out with the girls once a week. When he says he needs you to do something for him, then tell him you can't because you are busy. Hell, withhold sex from him. Remind him that when you wanted it a couple nights ago, he was too busy playing with his game to play with you. Now you are too busy.

Answer 8

He is addicted to games and needs counseling. He can stop and help with the housework any time. If he doesn't he needs help.

Divorcing him now would only further the addiction.

Answer 9

Just tell him that you are tired of being ignored and that he can have his game and you are going out to pursue your own interests. Go dancing, go to clubs with friends, just leave him alone with his game and go out and find things to do for yourself.

Answer 10

If he's going to behave like a child then TREAT him like one. Take the game away and hide it! Hide the whole damn computer if you have to until he wises up!