Should I tell her why it's important for her to be immunized and risk that she might think that I approve of her becoming sexually active? Which I don't?
Should I ask a doctor to immunize her and tell her that it's something else, like B12 injection, etc.?
She's 13 and not sexually active. As a parent, I'd like to keep it that way as long as possible.
Don't misunderstand. We have discussed sex and love.
2007-02-28 13:04:46 · 10 answers · asked by GeauxJoe 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There's a great deal of controversy about this. Mostly to do with harmful side effects. You'd better research it thoroughly. Why take a risk? I wouldn't do it. personally, I think it's just a ploy by the gov'mt & drug copanies to sell us more drugs. I'll try to find you some links.
Here's one:
http://www.washingtontimes.com/business/20070202-100152-9747r.htm
another: http://www.cwfa.org/articles/12333/CWA/misc/index.htm
more: http://www.informationliberation.com/?id=20074
http://www.dissidentvoice.org/Feb07/Marshall08.htm
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2007-02-28 13:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Just be honest with her. I mean just because you don't want your daughter to become sexually active does not mean she will not. Getting this immunization is not condoning sex. It prevents a horrible disease that could possibly kill your daughter. A disease that could cause her to develop cancer while she is in college or high school and die from it. I really don't understand what the controversy is about this. If I had a daughter or if I could have been given a shot to prevent the trauma I had to go through I would have. I'm "a good girl". I get straight A's and my mama loves me. It can happen to anyone. So why not prevent it if you can? Children get shots every day for diseases (some that they can get from having sex) that they know nothing about. Diseases that can KILL them. Why should this be different? Since your daughter is older and you have discussed sex and STD's with her I would tell her what it is for. If the child were younger, I think you can give this to younger children as well, I would just take her to the doctor and get the shot. It is your child's life. Do what you think is right for your daughter. Think about her when she is older and how she would feel knowing that a horrible disease the could kill her or prevent her from giving you grandchildren could have been prevented but her mother was too worried about politics to get her the shot.
2007-02-28 13:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to know what injection she is getting. She might try and get it later without your permission at a clinic. It would be best just to talk to her about it. That way she knows that the lines of communication are open. At 13 she is old enough to understand especially if you've discussed sex, sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy and keeping safe. Just make sure she knows this is immunization for a single std and there are others out there. Explain to her how HPV works, how you get it and how there is no test for men, so any man could be a carrier even one she loves!
2007-02-28 13:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't conceal anything from your daughter, because of the reasons others have mentioned and because what happens if she's 16 and says she'd like the shot---do you then tell her that "B12" shot was actually this? You don't want to be a liar to a teenager. It only creates distance.
But this is a new vaccination, and I'd be a little wary of it. I'm surprised how crazy for it everyone seems to be. It's a great advance if it really works and has no bad effects later. But since your daughter is only 13, maybe you could wait a year or two and see how public and healthcare opinions of it have evolved with that bit of time. That's what I would do, for myself (if I weren't past the age they currently recommend as a cutoff) or for my daughter (if I had one).
2007-02-28 13:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by blueblue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting a shot that prevents a disease that is sexually transmitted does not protect against pregnancy, nor does it protected against HIV, AIDS, or any other STD. Your daughter was raised a certain way, has certain friends, and has or will have a certain boyfriend. She will decide to or not to have sex based on her knowledge and experiences.
Getting the shot will protect her from the disease if she does decide to have sex. Not getting the shot or lying to her will not stop her from having sex. If she is knowledgeable of how to have safe sex, and the dangers of any sexual encounter. she will abstain longer and when she does decide to have sex, she will not do something stupid or dangerous.
Be honest and she will be no more likely to have sex than if she never hears about it from you at all. If you dont just get her immunized, you might be putting her life at risk.
2007-02-28 13:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by maxworth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I don't agree with these forced HPV vaccinations for girls. I understand the reasoning behind them, but I think that it should be up to the parents. That said, I don't think you should hide it from her. Just let her know that there are illnesses out there that every woman is at risk for, and you want to keep her healthy. Treat it like any other immunization. She probably won't even question it. Just because she has it now doesn't mean that she has to worry about the risk right now. It's to keep her safe for later on.
2007-02-28 13:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I am in the military and had to go for my annual medical check up. I was offered the voluntary HPV immunization (which I wasn't even aware they had one out). What did it for me was the statistics of cervix cancer and I just recently had a cousin go through chemo treatment after finding out she had cervical cancer. Although, your daughters age represents a different matter all together. I would lay it out for her and be frank about the situation. You might just tell her both the pros and cons of getting the shot and explain that you're not condoning sex. It is always important to be honest with your kids. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2007-02-28 13:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sharpie211 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mom first told me about the HPV vaccine when I was 14, and said that she really wanted me to get it because it's just good to be protected for the future. i think that you would be doing a disservice to your daughter by lying about an injection, and placing her doctor in a bad position by asking him/her to lie for you. as long as you discuss your interest in her continued safety and your family's values, i doubt that she'll take it as a thumbs-up to have sex- if you get someone a flu vaccine that doesn't mean they'll stop washing their hands. respect her enough to be honest with her
2007-02-28 13:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have the answer to any particular situation, but let me just say that I sure wouldn't want the government to push some drug on my kid of which little is known!!!
2007-02-28 13:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
have you disscussed STD's yet?
Just tell her that you need to get a shot to prevent a disease that you could get when you are older. ♥
2007-02-28 13:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋