What's your opinion on ' One child family' ?

Question

I think it is quite common nowadays. What's your opinion ?

Answer 1

I live in China where there is a one child policy, meaning every family by law is allowed only one child, the future cultural, family and social ramifications if this policy will be devastating to the country, in 20 years China will have over 30 million men without the possibility to marry, that is something to be scared of, but in your case with the right parenting skills and in a country that does not have the one child policy it should be OK, I myself have four and each one is a blessing, the differences between their personalities and the way they play and interact is AWESOME, we love to watch them grow closer in love and friendship!

Answer 2

It might be common but I wouldn't recommend it. All the single child families I've known (I know quite a few)..the children have always been spoilt and self-centred even as they've gotten older. I would recommend having more than one child if your situation is good (financially, physically etc) as long as there isn't too much of an age difference. I knew someone who was an only child until she was 12 years old, then her parents had another child but she is still like an only child (she pretty much grew up without siblings and is already self-centred and selfish most of the time).

I have two brothers. One is a year older than me and the other one is 1 year and a half younger than me. I have grown up sharing and bonding (I can't think of a better word) with my brothers. I have a cousin who is an only child, she is spoilt, a little self-centred and wishes she grew up with siblings. I must admit I personally couldn't see myself growing up with just my parents around all the time and having to rely on just my peers at school. I'm glad we were close in age and that I have siblings.

What ever family dynamic you choose, good luck!

Answer 3

Hi I'm an only child and so are 2 of my best friends. I was always happy being an only child, the only thing that I would change about the way i was bought up was to interact with other kids a bit more, I was shy as a child. Now that I'm older my best friends are my sisters so I don't miss out on anything there. I have a 10month old girl and I don't know if i will have another child as I'm sure she will be happy.

Answer 4

I am a twin with an older brother. I truly believe that having siblings close in age really helps with social adjustment. If there is a large age gap, then I don't think there is much of a difference. Most of my "only child" friends had a lot of social problems growing up and actually still have them in adulthood.
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In a national study of more than 20,000 children, teachers rated students who had at least one sibling as better able to form and maintain friendships, get along with people who are different, comfort and help other children, express feelings in a positive way, and show sensitivity to the feelings of others.

“Children without siblings were consistently rated as having poorer social skills,” said Douglas Downey, co-author of the study and associate professor of sociology at Ohio State University.

“Siblings fight with each other, they have conflicts, but they also figure out how to resolve those conflicts. That probably helps them deal with other children when they go to school.”

The results may seem reasonable, but surprisingly, most previous research has shown no social-skills advantage to having brothers and sisters.

Answer 5

While it is up to the parents on the number of children that a couple will have-but accidents have been known to hapen-I think that it is better to have at least 2 children per family. Having only one child doesn't give the child a chance to develop social, friendship, and family skills with any siblings at home. And just like someone going to school for 10 years as opposed to 3 years, spending the extra time with siblings of the same or opposite gender can greatly increase their knowledge of interaction with others exponentially compared to a single child with no in-home peers.

Answer 6

I had a great aunt that was an only child and she died sad and alone as she couldn't have any children and when she became elderly all of the older generation were gone or lived so far away. We were there for her but she always felt an emptiness about not having any sisters or brothers, or children to turn to, I have a cousin that is an only child and she hate it, she call me her sister and she always talk about how lonely she felt when she was a child, I have a sister and brother and my house was always loud and there was always chaos, She would always want to stay at my house and I would want to stay at her house to get away from my pesting siblings, and she would always say you don't know how it feels to be alone. I always wanted to be an only child and my cousin who was always hated it. And as an adult I can see why, my sister and I are inseparable we do everything together and she also babysits another plus about siblings.

Answer 7

There are many reason why the one child family
My husband and I were planning on having a second, he died when she was two
Sometimes after you give birth, you have medical problems and can not have another
Sometimes after you have one, you see how much work it takes, and decide just to say with one
Sometimes you try, but never get pregnant again, or years later like ten or more
Sometimes some couple just want one
Most people take what they got
God gave me a great child, and I am happy with that

Answer 8

I see no wrong in it. I have two sisters but one is 10 years older and the other is 15 years older. So i am basically a only child. I think it is better at times because you learn to be alone. You don't have to depend on other people to keep you happy and you don't need other people around you to have fun. I am more aware of what people are like and if they are decent or not. I pick on things quicker. I am fine. I just prefer to be alone because too many people don't seem to have a brain to think with or they just want to talk about nothing. I have more fun by myself. It is better because then if they ever have to be alone, they know how to deal with it better then someone with siblings close in age a lot of times.

Answer 9

I think it is an individual decision. No-one should be made to abort a child for the sake of having just one though ( as in China). Are one child families better for the child? Probably not, as they need to learn how to get along with other children in their age group. How to share etc. As a retired teacher, I have seen many "only children" who were spoiled rotten...literally. I've also seen onlies who were very well behaved, got along with their peers & grown-ups. In other words, very well adjusted & a delight to be around but still be a typical kid. It just really depends on who/how they're raised. Is it good for the parents?....Probably, if this is what they want. Yes, children do cost a lot of money to raise but I personally have raised many (3 birth, 3 steps & 9 fosters), there is not a single one I would have given up. There are so many more rewards than heartaches & you can't take money with you so what better can you spend it on if not children?

Answer 10

well i don't think it is right for a child to grow up with no siblings because children learn from there siblings starting as a baby and children want a brother or sister. Also being an only child you can be come a spoiled brat, unsocial, a need for socialization which might lead to many bad choices.

Answer 11

Its fine, but Id rather have 2 then 1, cuz then they can have some one to play with, and get to experience the siblinghood of life.

I want about 2 or 3 at most. Prob try to have one then wait till there about 5 or so for the next. then the last one maybe when the 2nd is about 3. ( I want to have the older kid potty trained and starting in headstart before i have another.) and time to get some money saved if needed.