Being someone who cares about people, their feelings, and their well-being? Why should I love anyone? I always get hurt in the end and everyone who said "I'll be there.." left.
2007-02-28 12:52:59 · 9 answers · asked by ♥ Scorpio X 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, first I'm disgusted that some answerers never actually address the question that is actually posed.
That said, it is my belief that in the immediate it is easier to care about others; it is human nature to connect with others and care what's happening to them.
However, it is also my belief that while it may be easier, in the immediate, it is more painful to care about others. Take the composer Franz Schubert. He said, "Whenever I attempted to sing of love it turned to pain. When I tried to sing of pain it turned to love".
The trick is learning to deal with the inevitable pain that comes with natural compassion (a word which literally means "feeling with"). If the person you care about is feeling pain or anguish or depression, some of that will naturally seep into one who "feels with" them, until the crisis is past.
Living the life of a heartless rotter is hard and takes assiduous practice, but some people feel it's worth it to avoid the pain and suffering of love.
2007-02-28 13:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Matt G 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It may be easier to be this way. I see it as just a cop out of having to deal with anything. Being this way may be easier, but you will definitely live a miserable life. It may be easier not to have to deal with life in the beginning, but later on you'll find that it has made your life harder. You will have no true friends, no one will trust you, and people will withdraw from you because you are so cold-hearted. You will die alone.
2007-02-28 21:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, it's easier in the short term. you don't have to worry about your feelings getting hurt, and no-one can blame you for hurting their feelings.
it is a lonely existence though.
i am like you, i have been MAJORLY burned and I turned away from everyone. I couldn't see how anyone could love me, and why I should then love anyone in return. but i realised that there WERE poeple who loved and cared about me, and they would always truly love me, and not because they had to. all i was doing was pushing them away because of a few b*rstards who weren't worth my time of day.
good people can be hard to find, but you will know them when you find them. the rewards of having them in your life are so much greater than the rewards of not giving a d*a*m*n.
2007-02-28 21:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy Goosey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what the cold-hearted, non-caring person finds natural.
I know someone who has lived like this for 60 years.
He is arrogant and at the same time, insecure. To convince himself of his greatness he must devalue everyone else. It is the burden of his family to love him in spite of himself.
Someone like this doesn't share himself and is always alone. But, he will not know what is missing and is content.
I don't think you can make yourself into such a person.
Would you not rather feel and experience it all?
2007-02-28 21:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you choose to be someone no one wants to around because you don't care or whatever, go for it, I'd rather be liked and cared about. You get a whole lot more satisfaction out of it.
Sometimes people who say they'll be there, aren;t your real friends, it sucks to find out the hard way, but forgedaboutit. My whole life was evolved into something better. I had no friends after this, but in time, I got lots and lots of good friends who will always be there for me.
2007-02-28 20:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Capo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Super Question - Keep on keeping on - I am proud of you - Just keep being the wonderful person you are - and choose people who love that about you and won't take advantage of your loving and caring nature - Bless you so much
2007-02-28 21:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? it is way better to be someone who cares about other people, and their feelings. Nobody likes a cold-hearted, non caring person. Nobody will be there to hurt you becuase you will have no friends.
2007-02-28 20:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by wind it up 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not easier. It is more difficult to be cold hearted, and much more rewarding.
2007-02-28 21:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Figure out who or what your priorities are and everybody else then becomes second tier concerns....
2007-02-28 21:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by conx-the-dots 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋