Talking to my potentially-unfaithful mom?

Question

I know I just posted a question on this.. but I have another.

Today I came upon an instant msg convo between my mother, whose been married to my father for 28 years, and an "online friend". Disturbing things were said, such as her saying she wished he could give her a back rub, wanting him to move closer, etc etc. This ******* loser was even pretending he had feelings for my mom ( never met her, married, grandchildren), yet he was playing the whole "i have such strong feelings for you"..

I need to talk to my mom, and I don't want anyone else to know about it unless she's actually being unfaithful. I just don't' know how to approach her. I'll start crying if I just bring this up. I was thinking maybe just write her a letter telling her everything, how i feel, etc, and then letting her collect her thoughts and talk to me. Any suggestions?

I can't just go up to her and tell her. It's too much for me to just talk about. I need help really badly, my mind is so scrambled right now.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear that you ended up in the middle of your mom's mess. That's exactly what it is -- her mess.

Take some time and just chill out, organize your thoughts, and regain your composure. You have every right to be upset about what you read, and at the same time, you have to realize that it was very personal information. Not knowing your mother, I can't tell you how she'll react, but I'd say that most people would feel hurt, angry, upset, or just deny the whole thing -- you have to be prepared for that.

Sorry I don't have any other advice. Good luck