Im a 25 yr old gay guy living in a suburb of Detroit and have been single for a few years. It seems impossible to meet anyone compatible lately so I've kinda given up on it for now. Do any of you guys think you are better off single?
2007-02-28 12:38:34 · 18 answers · asked by MetroDetroitGuy25 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Good answers so far, thanks guys.
puzzlite, yeah I was reading that NJ has civil unions now. Maybe I'll end up over your way. I think I want to move at some point.
pajamas mon, I need to stay somewhat north cause I just dont like it too hot and humid all the time
jedilounge1, I agree, never rush anything, I'm being patient... Just wondering if anyone actually felt they would be better off on their own
2007-02-28 12:57:38 · update #1
I prefer to be in a couple, but I didn't mind being single either. It's good that you have kind of given up...the harder you search for something the less likely you are to find it.
2007-02-28 12:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
No we are not better off single, no one is. I have a pretty good life, everything I could need, but none of it matters because I am single. I appreciate what I have, enjoy my life for the most part, help people when I can, and yet I don't feel that my life will be complete until I have someone to love. I'm 46 and have pretty much given up looking, but I still have hope. It is ok to be single, it let's you get to know who you are, so that you can better figure out what you want in a partner. Enjoy being single for now, but keep your eyes open, and never give up hope.
2007-03-08 17:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by presumedduggy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with being single and I have enjoyed the times that I was single for the most part. However I am 100% content being with my husband. Knowing that I will have someone to celebrate life's highs and support in lows can not be replaced by anything. It is the simple things that are great like sharing a meal together even doing laundry on a Saturday nite.
2007-02-28 20:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by mloinc 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i have been single for 6 years now and have been very happy but yet have been kind of lonesome too. I have had a few guys now and then, none that i would want as b/f or partners. But now i think i have found the guy of my dreams, noting spectacular, but he is great in my eyes. so Yes for some people it is good to be single and maybe wait, then others can't stand to be alone for long. So I think it really just depends on the individual.
2007-02-28 21:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i'm not a guy, but my best guy friend is gay. He was the kind of guy who never really liked having real relationships, he just screwed around. But a few years ago, he fell in love with this guy, who also happens to be one of his best friends; unfortunately, the other guy claioms he doesn't feel the same way. Butt actually he does, he just doesnt date his freinds because he doesn't want things to get awkward later on. All my friend ever talks about is how he wishes he could just be with him.
Just because a gay guy messes around more than straight men, doesn't mean that they don't want to live a happy life with someone they love...go home after work and see his lover sleeping..go up to him and wake him up with a kiss...tell him he loves him. Guys have this huge ego thing going on, but a one point in their life, every man thinks about what it would be like to go home to the same person they love.
2007-02-28 22:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i used to believe as a young man that being single was best. but now at the ripe age of 42 i know this isn't true. Ive known it for the past 15 years. so what i might offer from my experiences is. seeing you have sewn you oats. you are obviously looking to settle down. don't give up, keep on dating. its no different for a heterosexual than a gay. alright a gay has a lot more obstacles than the straight. but if you quit on trying to find some one. you wont find some one. so keep on looking. you will find him. (BTW) my partner (which i cant guarantee is going to last as much as i would like it to) jumped out of the cab of an 18 wheeler at my work place. i said to my self " what a fine looking man, i only wish..." little did i know. he was into me as well. so, the point of all my babble is. when you least expect it. expect it. don't give up. your prince is out there. good luck.
2007-02-28 20:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by shyboy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i want a relationship
it does require a lot of work though
and sometimes i wonder if it will ever happen since most of us homos are so consumed with the way guys look and the way they perform sexually
im with a guy now, for 3 weeks; great guy..havent had sex with him and hes acting all weird
i guess guys dont like to wait anymore
2007-03-03 17:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Bradley S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it may seem like you're beter off, but in the end, there will always be that void until you have someone in your life. It'll take time, but you'll find someone. I'm still looking for my perfect guy.
2007-02-28 22:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Each one of us is different but as someone who's in his 40's, I'd like to have someone to share my life with. Being single is nice but having someone in my life would be equally as nice.
2007-03-07 13:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i may have benefitted from staying single longer in my twenties, but now that I've entered my thirties, and gained a ton of maturity... I dred the single life...
2007-03-04 13:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋