I just found out on Sunday that my BF had been cheating on me. I moved out of the apartment right away. I couldn't trust him anyway the way he talked on the phone to his "homegirls". Anyways, I'm 2 months pregnant and so sad that I'm alone. I don't need a man, I just need some inspiration! Any single moms or single pregnant people, or anyone with some kind of inspirational idea, please put it in my head! I really need this now. Thanks!
2007-02-28 12:30:22 · 11 answers · asked by ~Kimberly~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am a father of 2 boys and dad to a wonderful girl for 11yrs . she not with me but i love her as my very own. she calls me daddy still. sorry your xbf was not man, it sickens me to see or hear of boyyyysss like him. try as you may, he is the baby's father. if you lived with him for over 6months check local laws. he should have to help pay for all expenses relating to the baby.
then start over there is someone out there who wanted you before him and would still want you just think of who that person is. there are men out there that would love you and your baby. way more then your xbf did. my wife of 6 yrs cheated on me she had that wonderful girl i love so much. i put my name on her birth certificate and lost her 7 years later when my xwife passed away. lost in a court Battle. don't see her much now but i will still fight for her. but my dear stay strong , keep your head up, smile dont be sad. sad robs you of life. a smile gives it and attracts people to you. take care god bless you and your baby.
2007-02-28 13:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by thewiseman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I went down that same road 19 yrs ago with my first.
Thought I did a great job, loved my child more than life itself.
She never saw her father, who didn't really care and wasn't a nice person. I was too young and naive to see the truth at the time.
Now, she blames ME for everything. It breaks my heart. If only I had the chance to do it again..
I would encourage you to follow your heart. Don't act on impulse.
Maybe it's worth sorting out and forgiving his indiscretion. ONCE. There is a child involved, maybe he has learned from his mistake. Once you start showing and the pregnancy becomes 'real' to him, once the child is born, you might find he will totally change his ways and be utterly devoted to both you and the baby. Give him the chance. Did he know you were carrying his baby? How old is he?
Being a single mum is hard, but brings rewards as well. I love my daughter and life was very hard, as I put myself through college to give her a better life. But I was young and realistically, made some mistakes with her upbringing. She was spoilt (I tried to over-compensate) with little things but we never had much. I also wasn't around a lot, with study and work to keep us going.
You will have to have contact with him forever, if he wants a share in raising her. To be fair, a child does need both parents. That was a mistake I made a long time ago, I will pay for it forever. My daughters father was in and out of jail (I had no idea, I was young and naive) and I didn't encourage contact to 'protect' her. It backfired.
Sorry about sounding so glim, but you need to be aware of these things. If your ex is otherwise a good person, he would still make a great dad and please don't stop that.
If you can't handle the thought of seeing him forever, with other girls or eventually a wife, or you can't remain friendly, then maybe you need to consider ending the pregnancy whilst you are still very early. I hate the thought and don't support it, but life is long and this is a huge responsibility.
On the up side, I am sure your child will bring you lots of joy. If you WANT to make it work, you WILL make it work. Hope you have family support. Choose wisely.
Good luck
2007-02-28 12:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey my sister was 14 when she had her daughter. She was totally bummed out about the fact that she was going to be a single mother.. But after the baby was born and in her arms she told us that she could be both Mommy and Daddy.. She just turned 18 and has done everything up to this point on her own.. She said that it was so easy getting to where she is at today that even though she was so young when it all begain she would do it all over again... There are plenty of single mothers out there, and you can do it on your own just have faith that everything will work out.. In do time you will find the right guy.... Someone that will love both you and your child, and you yourself will look back and say the same thing.. If you had to you would do it all over again... Congratulations on the baby... And Best of Luck.... All things will work out...
2007-02-28 12:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mom too....my ex left me when i was 4 months pregnant with our 2nd child so i know how it feels to be alone. being pregnant is a really tough thing to go through alone, but try to find some friends you can talk to or maybe you can join a support group for single moms. try to focus on your baby and do what's best for him/her. and don't worry hun, you can do this! it's not easy being a single mom, but it's not impossible and being a mom can be alot of fun. good luck! and feel free to e-mail me if you'd like to
2007-02-28 13:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put up with my boyfriend's cheating for 7 months after all the years i invested into a future with him, I have a month left of my pregnancy and all I want to do is enjoy so I dumped him, he's crying, andi'm not coming back. My motto is to better to drop him than have to carry the dead weight. My baby needs a father not a sperm donor and unfortunately he didn't meet the qualifications. You'll do just fine. It'll suck but itll be better, you won't have to be around someone who doesn't respect enough to keep it in his pants, you won't have to argue with anyone about the proper way to discipline your child, you won't have to worry about him bringing your baby around some skank, or getting checked for std's, you won't have to worry about dealing with him at all.... aside from getting him to sign over that paycheck for child support. congrats and goodluck... maybe we should throw a horrible ex party.
2007-02-28 14:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend broke up with me one week, the next week he was engaged and the following month he was married!! It has been 3 yrs since this happened and i am doing fine!! I am her mom and dad!You dont need a man to raise your baby! Sue him for childsupport and give him visitation thats if he is responsible and hold your head up high! Congrats on the baby!!!
2007-02-28 12:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by btinawill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. as a fashion to get pregnant a sperm has to fertilize an egg. An egg is released from the ovary and passes down the fallopian tube the place the sperm will meet and fertilize it. the only way sperm can do it is by potential of passing up the vagina, during the uterus and into the fallopian tubes. The rectum passage is asserted to the digestive equipment, it fairly is purely purpose is to expel waste, it fairly is not element of the reproductive equipment. the only way you will get pregnant from anal intercourse is that if he misses and he penis by probability enters your vagina, this might take place whilst issues get somewhat slippery and lubricated. until now you have intercourse returned i might propose you re-practice your self on reproduction and consistently the place risk-free practices. even however you are able to not get pregnant from anal intercourse you are able to truly capture STIs.
2016-10-16 23:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by fanelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you wont need a man like that in the future anyway. Now you have someone else to love, and they will love you back unconditionally.. Good Luck Congrats in the baby!!!
2007-02-28 12:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, women have been being mothers for centuries!! you can do this! I'm a single woman expecting twins. If that's not gonna be tough, I don't know what is! Email me if you like but I'm positive you can be a wonderful mum to your bundle of joy :-)
2007-02-28 12:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by adnilebbeautiful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle- not missing anything important.
2007-02-28 12:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋