Be Honest!!! Agree Or Disagree ?

Question

Everybody has flirted be them in a relationship or married.So why does everyone act like it's such a bid thing I mean i love my wife to death do us part but sometimes that attention from another person makes you feel good.What I'm really asking is "What makes the person who got caught so bad? You do it to you just didn't get caught.

MR.R thank you for reading and understanding what i was saying and for the rest i'm notso much talking about me I know how far to go i'm juut asking in general ty.

Answer 1

It depends on the manner in which the flirting is being done.
Are you sending out a message or some kind of innuendo? then that is wrong.

Otherwise, I don't see anything wrong with harmless flirting

Answer 2

I think people act like it's "such a bad thing" because they think it is. When you are married or in a relationship, you shouldn't be flirting with other people because it can get extremely emotional and emotions (especially for women) can lead to feelings, which lead to other things. * Note: This is only if flirting is long term with another person.*

If it is flirting with "everyone" just seeing someone and flirting or the waiter/waitress at the restaurant I think it's ridiculous for people to get angry.

I had this problem almost 2 years ago with my husband. I WAS THE ONE FLIRTING. I did it becuase I was getting attention from the other man that I was not getting from my husband. I was being told I was "hot" all the time, and we were talking about deep stuff that my husband can't talk about because he gets angry.

I know I was wrong, and I have worked really hard to make up for it.
To sum all this up..........I feel you man!!! I KNOW what you mean, and I am not sure there is a "right" answer for your question.

Answer 3

Okay, a lot of people say if you are married the only person you should flirt with or care if they are attracted to you, is your spouse. Please, let's get honest here. I have been married over 20 years to a wonderful man, whom I wouldn't trade in for anyone. BUT just because you are married doesn't mean you like an occassional reminder that you are attractive to someone. Yes, my spouse tells me I am wonderful and beautiful and I believe he means it. But isn't it still nice to have some confirmation of that from someone else once in a while? Flirting - smiling talking etc - is harmless with me. I know, and the person I am flirting with (usually a close male friend) know it will lead to nothing more than a smile on both of our faces and a little confidence boost. Obviously, there are "flirting lines" that shouldn't be crossed and my husband and I both know what they are and don't even come close to crossing them. PS I don't flirt with strangers. They don't know "what I'm made of" and may misinterpret my flirting. I don't want to put them or me in that uncomfortable position.

Answer 4

Honestly, if you say you love your wife then the only attention that should have you more flattered then any other is from your WIFE. I mean no one else should matter. I know it seems nice to hear others nice comments about you or to see others that find you attractive but a commitment is a commitment and feelilngs or emotions are no where as strong as a commitment. I mean feelings change every minute but commitments last forever. We all feel things we shouldn't feel but when you are committed to something or someone thats when your heart should be telling what to do and not your flesh. What helps me with things like this is praying and asking God for guidance. Develope a personal relationship with Christ and you will never be steered wrong. Read Romans10:9 in the bible.

Answer 5

Well, you're wrong. Not everyone does do it. You agreed when you got married to forsake all others. You lied. It's just that simple. Looking and talking are one things, but to go any further is another. Sure, people flirt all the time. Doesn't mean you have to go for it. If you wanted to be able to fool around, you shouldn't have gotten married. Turn this around. How would you feel if your wife got in bed with every man who she flirted or talked to? What if she came home with an std?

Answer 6

I don't think it's wrong to flirt. I pick on my husband a bit for it, because he is such a big flirt, I can always tell when he is talking to a woman on the phone:P

"but sometimes that attention from another person makes you feel good"

Exactly. I know my husband loves me, and he will find me attractive regardless of how I look(we've had two kids together, he was in the delivery room for one, so he's seen me at my worst), and it is nice to know that I still look good to other people.

Answer 7

THE REASON WHY PEOPLE ACT AS IF IT IS A BAD THING TO DO IS BECAUSE MOST OF THE PEOPLE WHO HAS DONE THIS AND HAS GOTTEN CAUGHT IS BECAUSE THEY HAD WENT OVER THEIR BOUNDARY. IT IS NOT WRONG FOR A MAN/WOMAN WHO IS INVOLVED /MARRIED TO APPRECIATE THE FLIRTING AND ATTRACTION THAT THEY GET FROM SOMEONE ELSE. BUT IT IS WRONG WHEN THEY ALLOW THE FLIRTING AND ATTRACTION TO BECOME AN AFFAIR. AND THAT IS WHAT WILL HAPPEN MOST LIKELY. IF YOU ALLOW THAT TO GO ON AND YOU DON'T LET IT GO ANY FARTHER THEN THAT THEN THAT IS NORMAL. BUT IF YOU DO ALLOW IT TO GO FARTHER THEN YOU ARE TOTALLY IN THE WRONG. IF IT DOES NOT HAPPEN CONSTANTLY THEN THERE SHOULDN'T BE A PROBLEM BUT IF IT DOES THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BLAME A PERSON FOR BECOMING AFRAID & WORRIED THAT THEY WILL END-UP LOSING YOU IF THE FLIRTING IS A CONSTANT THING.

Answer 8

Some people are just flirt-inclined. But, if it feels good, then you should identify that as a vulnerability to your personality and relationship. Feeling good can turn into an affair so easy. You might not believe this, but it can, and whether or not you want that to happen, when it does it'll hurt you and whoever else is involved in your life. I hope you don't hold your wife to a double standard, but let her flirt with guys as well. I mean, maybe she likes it when people tell her she's hot or better yet, she's implying that to others-get my drift?

Answer 9

I think everyone does do it to a degree. I think there is an invisible line you draw that only you know when its crossed. If you're truely in love with someone your extra curricular flirting doesn't go very far. If your flirting to the point of thinking about that person all the time or even after the instance you may not be as happy as you think in your relationship.

Answer 10

Honestly flirting is great, and can boost your self esteem. The problem is when the line is crossed. It might not happen now, but in a couple years someone might start to take the flirting as more and next thing you know you are cornered in the stock room making out. You just have to be careful with others emotions.

Answer 11

everyone does NOT do it. I love my husband dearly and I would never flirt on him...there is not reason to, I have a wonderful husband and I love God and my husband way too much to do something to ruin my realationship with either of them.....yes I would get forgiven by God and most likely my husband, but why would I want to ever hurt either of the two people who mean so much to me....flirting hurts the other person's feelings in a lot of cases...a person's self esteem has to be high enough that they do not need attention from another person...not being mean, just being honest, like you asked me to ...be blessed and have a great day!