ATTENTION Married men 30 and over....?

Question

please tell me what you consider to be NORMAL porn viewing... how often? every opportunity, daily, weekly? Is it normal to look at distasteful stuff just for the humour of it? do you seriously expect your wife to be cool with it? is she? is your sex life normal? do you men really believe that there are women out there who can/will tolerate what i consider to be deceitful? i believe my husband has an addiction, but he keeps telling me he is the same as any other man world over with a healthy sex drive, and that it has nothing to with me... he reassures me, but i still cant accept it! help me to understand what is normal activity and what is crossing the line.... i am not that much of a prude that i dont understand the needs of men. i know that you are visual creatures and that sometimes you just need a W##K! dont we all! but when does it become a betrayal?
HELP?

further to this question..... does anyone think its possible for a man to have overactive testosterone? is this a possible condition that can be treated?

Answer 1

My husband is the same way. I believe that he looks at it probably every day. He tells me that it's like someone who drives a Lamborghini, but they will still look at a Ferrari. It completely upsets me and makes me crazy, but what can I really do about it? We don't have sex as much as I would like, so that adds to the problem as well. He tells me that he is just like every other man on the face of the earth too. I just haven't come across any of the others like him I guess, until you! :)

Answer 2

I personally think that if you have a good wife that you love dearly, why would you want or need porn at all. I think it's abnormal to want porn at all unless you're having trouble keeping your wife happy because you aren't quite experienced enough and are boring her with the same old thing each time. In that case it would be more private to try and learn a little more about different ways to please your mate by viewing it, but I would be viewing it with you not without you. My wife and I never needed help there so I would say you might want to talk to him about a potential problem he has. Porn can be addicting. I had to fire an employee for it awhile back. He was so addicted to watching porn that he was using a company computer to do it so his wife wouldn't find out. By the way, he was 38 years old!

Answer 3

Don't go by me. I don't think it's crazy to look at porn everyday for ten minutes. But now, I just don't do it. My wife would probably give me a hard time if I did but my suggestion is as follows. Let him watch porn but ask him to set limits for himself. If he can't stick to his own limits, he has a problem. It is not betrayal by the way in my opinion but I understand how you can feel that way.

Answer 4

married 14 years. i'm 36. I look at it when I am extremely bored. I don't look at it when I'm horny. I try and condition my body to respond to my wife when I'm horny. If I were to look at porn when I was horny, my sex life with my wife will suffer.

O.K.. men are "visual creatures" however, we should not be so excited by what we see if we can't control it. I think you are having a proper reaction to your husband looking at porn. It isn't healthy. At least if he were with another woman, he could learn some skills on how to please you. Porn is worse than adultery because it deceptive and very destructive.

Answer 5

I don't believe in living in a fantasy world when I can have
the real thing. My wife is what turns me on and she has
class. Some men need stimulants such as porn and some
need more than others. I can't answer for them as all I
know I am stimulated and excited by my wife and that is
100percent real!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

there is a book that will shed alot of light on this topic. it is called "Every Mans Battle" our church group went through it as a study. It is an addiction. He and You must deal with it to stop it.
I was that man once. and still fight it once and a while. Get the book you will learn alot