I'm 5 months pregnant and I don't know what to do.?

Question

I know some of you read my first post. I'm 16 and 5 months pregnant, and so on.

Most of you guys said to tell my parents, and I wish I could easily do that. But coincidently, for the last couple of months my mom has mentioned her friends daughters who gave birth at 19 and she told me how awful it is for the daughter and the mother. and how disappointing it is for a girl to throw away her life that easily. just hearing my mother saying these things to me while im pregnant makes me feel like a horrible daughter and makes it harder for me to tell her. i dont know what im suppose to say to her and i just dont want to hurt her. i dont know how to say something like this to my parents withought feeling like such a horrible daughter.

Answer 1

Things happen in life. What can you do. But what really matters is how you deal with unexpected events.

What you could do is, when you tell your mom, you could already have a plan ready.
I mean, don't just say that you're pregnant. Try to approach her by saying there's going to be a big change in your life and she's going to be a grandmother a bit earlier than expected.
Then hear her out.
And then -- present her with YOUR plan, even if it's just tentative.
Think through what you'd like to do. Stay in school (you'd set a good example for your baby and you'd make sure that you can support her/him!), that you'd need your mom's help so you can finish your education. That you're determined to finish school (well, I hope that you are!), that will be VERY important for your mom. Even your college plans should still go ahead. It's all how you organize your time and life.

I think her "throwing away" comment was about limitations (school, work), but that doesn't' have to be that way. Your mom wants the best for you, even if she'll get upset at your news. But you can try to make her understand that you're a team now and that you need her help.

It's not an easy thing to do. And it's a discussion that's not just going to last 30 minutes but many days, weeks. And that's a good thing. Because it 's a good way to figure things out.

But if you have some idea of what YOU want to do - how you'd like to organize your life, who's help you need for everything, what you will do to make sure everything is ok, etc. that'll make it easier for your mom too.
Because she'll see that you're mature and that you're thinking things through and not just letting destiny take it's course.

It might also be a good idea to see a doctor for a pre-natal visit. You don't have to have your mom in the office with you, that is all up to you. Or you can talk to the doctor alone and then invite your mom in.

Good luck! Just take it step-by-step.

Answer 2

hunni how ur 5 months pregnant n hiding it i dnt know how ur doin it ... im 3 months and already showin .... being a parent means unconditional love means what ever happens you mother will love u yeah for sure she will probably be mad but she isnt gonna stop loving you. talk to her sweeti its not like she can make u get an abortion coz its to late and she cant do it anyways coz its your body . u may just even find that by the time bubba comes along she will be excited as you . except for having to be a grandma at a young age :) but your mum will be there for her .. write her a letter and tell her whats going on, isnt it better she is there to support you . your mum will probable be more mad if u keep it from her then what she would if you told her . at least if you tell her it give her some time to get used to the idea and trust me i couldnt have gotten this far with out my mum . you will be fine be strong :) and i hope every one goes well for you your mum and the baby

Answer 3

You are not a horrible daughter. A horrible daughter would plop out a kid, hand it to the grandparents and say "Here, you take care of this while I go party."

Of the various decisions you have to make, whether to abort or carry to term, whether to raise the kid or put it up for adoption, the one option you do not have is to pretend you're not pregnant. Sooner or later your parents will know unless you decide to run away.

All that being said, whatever you decide to do, you are entitled to the support and guidance of your parents. Chances are if you give them a chance that's what they'll give you, and if they don't that is their problem.

Answer 4

I hid my pregnancy from my mom for 5 months and when she found out she was angry but 2 weeks later we went baby shopping! It has been six years and my daughter and her are the best of friends!! Go ahead and tell her and if you cant tell her by mouth tell her it in a letter!! This is a very difficult time in your life and you need your mom to help decide what is best!!

Answer 5

Write a letter, explain how you feel, how sorry you are and ask for forgiveness. Mom and Dad will stand by you, give them a chance. Explain in your letter what your plans are, if your keeping the baby, going to continue with school. Tell them your plans as much as you can. This is going to be tough, but by writing a letter, can save you from facing them and telling them the truth. You will feel better once this is out, I promise. Good luck with you and your baby!

Answer 6

She probably already knows something is going on. This may be her way to get back at your for not telling her, still. So, just buck up and tell her. The sooner you get it off your chest, the better it will be. You can say, you know mom, i am not that girl, and i am not throwing my life away. Sorry for making it "harder on you" but i am the one who is having a baby, i will be the mom now. Just tell her what you feel... and PLEASE do it soon, she probably already knows!

Answer 7

Look, it's not like you have a choice. You HAVE to tell her because she's going to know sooner rather than later and maybe it would be best if she could get past the disappointment and anger before the baby comes. It's not going to go away! I know it must be hard, but you have to give her a chance.

Answer 8

maybe she threw that out there, because she suspects you are pregnant honestly YOU need to tell at least your mom yes she will be mad but your mom is some one you really need right now ill be 8 months tomorrow and omg if i dident have my mom when i was 5 months i dont know what id do cause im constantly asking since i found out i was pregnant mom is this normal, is this sopose to happen, i was afraid at first i just came out and said it we were walking in the house and i just said mom im pregnant, which for me was not a big deal., but it seems like your mom will just act all crazy but she really needs to know, you could be sitting at home and go into Pre-Term Labor and then what are you going to do? Thats Scary as hell, i spent allsunday night in the hospital because i went in pre-term labor but would have never knew it if i dident tell my mom what was happening.

Answer 9

I wasn't here for your first posting, but I will say this to you: Tell your parents. They will support you in this. The fact that your mom talks about this 19 yr old is probably in hopes you won't wind up like her. Well, it has happened.
Your parents need to be told so they can help you make decisions about your future. They may be upset at first, but remember you were too.
Give them time to adjust, then listen to their advice. They love you, and still will.

Answer 10

Your mother already knows. Women are incredibly intuitive and she may be throwing those statements out to get you to talk. I mean the big pink elephant in the living room is going to get increasingly hard to ignore. Tell you parents. Tell them now. It will give everyone 4 months to get used to the idea.