I have been feeling insecure in the past months about our relationship, questioning our marriage and mentioning some names of the people he knows.
Then there was this georgeous sexy female singer from his back-home country so one day I said I am so sick of hearing about her, I mean, really has an obsession with her, he is always looking at her pictures at work on the net it's getting so annoying, SO jokingly I said ooooohh I wish that she would die already so we don't have to hear about her all the time." ( it was around the time when Anna Nicole Smith died). So after that he was telling me how embarassed he is by me and that he can't take me to public places because he is scared I will say something inappropriate. Today I was telling him what a bad I am having and everything was going wrong. GUESS what he told me - that GOD is punishing me for talking stupid.
2007-02-28 11:45:03 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, tell him god gave you the gift of gab to punish him for being such an asshole!!!!!!
2007-02-28 11:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by I ♥ gir 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
LMAO wow your husband seems to be pretty retarted. Unless you wanna leave him, then your stuck with his being a retard, because people like that never change. Especially if they wanna say "god" is involved. I would tell him where to stick his precious "god" if i were you. Your having a bad day because hes bringing you down and your subconcious is feeling it and influencing you. Psychology can be weird sometimes, you just need to do something you enjoy and get your mind off him. Citrus and mint also help lift your mood, as well as popcorn. The scents react in your brain and make you feel happy. That and chocolate, lots and lots of chocolate. Personally, i go on youtube and watch something cute, like a budgee taking a bath or something.
2007-02-28 11:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Reggie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, obviously he's your husband and therefore you love him and aren't looking to straight out leave him. Talk to him. Tell him that these are things that are making you question your marriage and maybe together you should attend couple counseling. Hopefully he'll go. If not, then you should leave him. Otherwise, it will continue to go down hill and you'll be waiting for the straw that broke the camels back. Eventually it will build up and be way too much to handle any more and for your mental and emotional health you will have to leave.
2007-03-01 03:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by melissa13182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it bad that your husband said this? It is not good or bad it just is. The real problem is your husband total disrespect for your feelings and his childish behaviour or fantasizing about this chick that could care less about him. Since the odd of him connecting with her are 1 in 10,000 I would lay off the comments about her. It just makes you look bad. But I would tell him that him fantasizing about her does nothing to improve your feeling about him. (Tell him once and never bring it up again)
Start ignoring him and he will get scared treating you better.
Don't worry about the God thing, God understands what you are saying.. that you want her out of your husband's mind and out of your life.
2007-02-28 11:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze, what an idiot. Don't listen to him. Everyone says something they regret. He just did. I would leave him. You don't need this, it is abuse you know. It may not be physical, but it is mental. Tell him you're just as embarrassed by him and his mouth. Leave him. You may not be the smartest person on earth, but is he? I don't think so. If you are feeling insecure, improve yourself by going back to school. He's not so tactful himself. If you're so awful, why did he marry you in the first place. Loose this loser. He's trying be Man-God to you. You can do better. Get someone who loves you for who you are and respects you. Your real Prince is out there waiting for you.
2007-03-04 10:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been feeling insecure its because your husband is not doing his job in loving his wife. You should be second in his life God #1. But you are responsible for your part also by respecting him. It doesn't go like this "I will respect you if you love me" and vice a versa. Both need to give 100% not 50/50
2007-02-28 11:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by betrue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should stick up for yourself. He is degrading you by saying that you "talk" stupid. It sounds like he has no respect for you whatsoever. And I totally agree with you about being sick of hearing about another girl. I would not put up with that either. maybe saying you wish she would die was a little extreme but i can see my self saying something like that if i was upset in the same situation. i am sure you didnt mean that you hope she dies and i am sure your husband knows that tooo. he is acting childish. and God forgives... and i am sure god knows u didnt mean it that way. and tell your husband it is not up to him to tell you what god thinks of you. he is trying to make you feel guilty about everything and i am not sure why i suggest you sit down and talk to him to find out why he treats you this way. GOOD LUCK HONEY
2007-02-28 11:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound disrespectful of your hubby, but he is wrong. God does NOT punish us. He may ALLOW things to happen, but He does not punish us for "stupid things/said or done". God uses things that happen to us as trials - primarily to bring us closer to Him - not to separate us from Him.
It sounds like your hubby is trying to convince himself - and you - that he has justification in putting you down and that he deserves a 'different' mate. His having ANY interest in ANY woman outside of you is infidelity and adultery of the heart. In God's eyes, that is the same as physically committing adultery in his marriage against you. Your comment to him about wishing she'd die was unfair on your part, but it was a natural reaction to his words, and you are not to be blamed for that. He is now looking for excuses to begin hunting for another woman to build up his male pride (hence, leaving you at home...he is merely using your little comments as an excuse to begin to participate in his own poor behavior).
He is the person talking stupidly, truly, if you are being open with the comments shared between you two. We all have bad days and good days; his comment should have been to build you back up and reassure you that the day wasn't all that bad and tomorrow will be better.
That is what we do in marriage: We are mates. We support each other. We back each other up. We build each other up. We add to the other person's confidence. We reassure our mate that we love them. We show each other respect in all things. We give each other room to grow. We let each other vent off steam - but not toward each other. We are companions, best friends, best lovers, confidants.
I suggest counseling - Christian based. By being conducted in a Christian-based perspective, the preservation of your marriage is foremost, and divorce is only seen as a very last option (or not at all). Fight for your marriage, but he's got to want it to succeed, too. Let's hope he still cares enough to fight for your marriage, too.
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2007-02-28 12:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are BOTH pretty screwed up!
Who cares about a celeb-obsession? Did you think that singer was going to come to your house & say"I'm stealing your man now, too bad!"??? Get real...let him dream he's a stud.
You acted immaturely about that, but he was WORSE for presuming to know the opinions of GOD--and if HE was going to punish one of you, it would be your husband.
I think to save this marriage, you need some couple counseling. You both seem like you got married with rose-colored glasses on....and now it isn't "perfect", so you are baffled!
2007-02-28 11:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell him that he's a dumb a s s for lusting after someone he'll NEVER have?
Don't let him get to you. Sounds like he has too much of an upper hand in this relationship. I think you need to smack him around a little bit and get him back in line. If you let a man get too far upper hand, they go too far! Trust me. Re-establish yourself as the A-dog in the house. He'll be bringing your breakfast in bed in no time.
2007-02-28 11:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a horrible tyrant of a man who only thinks about and only loves himself. You can do so much better, and I am personally offended that he would try to hide his tryannical ideas behind the curtain of religion. NO! He is a loser. God is not punishing you, and as for him he will get what he has coming to him someday.
2007-02-28 11:52:36 · answer #11 · answered by Chenielle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋