She is only talking about herself and her problems.She always goes to me for advice I do answer her and listen to her. She goes to me cause no body else will listen.But it's getti'n annoying. Every single day I hear my dad is never home.... I understand it must be tough . But has she ever thought that at least she has her dad with her. M y dad is in another state. It is always something different that she makes a big deal about. I have problems too who doesn't but I complain to her or friends every once in while. But this is every day. I know she feels like she has no one else to talk to but this is so agrivating . HELP PLEZ!
2007-02-28 11:36:18 · 34 answers · asked by blue eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get a new friend. You could talk to her about it, but she'll probably end up coming back to the same behaviors, so I mean obviously she isn't being a very good friend, if you care about her, maybe you all can fix it, but if it were me I would probably get a new friend because life is too short to deal with people who wanna do all the talking but none of the listening.
2007-02-28 11:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chenielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has this kind of trouble with friends sometimes. Friendship is a give and take, but sometimes it's all give by one person, take by the other. If she really is your best friend, you'll get past this--you'll be more tolerant, she'll move on to something else, you'll have problems she'll listen to. Say politely: "You know, we talked about this yesterday. I'm so sorry there's nothing I can do. Does it really help to tell me about it again?" Or--if you really can't put up with her behavior, the friendship will fade and grow apart. Time will tell. For now, be kind to her.
2007-02-28 11:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good strong friend and talk to her about how you feel. She needs to know that her complaining is taking a toll on your friendship.
You might also want to try to find some reading material on thinking positive or something and give it to her, telling her that focusing too much on what is wrong is not the only choice for how to be.
2007-02-28 11:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is truly your best friend, tell her! Sit her down & explain that your just a kid too & that you can only carry so many of her burdens before you begin to feel over loaded! Tell her that you too have problems & that you need thinking time to work on your own needs. Perhaps because you always listen, she has no idea of what she is doing to you. Only you can get her squared away!
Ya gotta do it, sooner than later or your not going to think of her as your best friend, just an annoyance that you want to avoid!
2007-02-28 11:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by geegee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a great trick for this. Your friend is annoying you with all this because they have no-one else to talk to. Here's what you do, make yourself unavailable to your friend, when they call dont answer. When they call back, answer and say you are busy. If they ask you to come over, say you have plans. You do this until your friend feels a cold shoulder, they will find another person to dump their problems on and when that happens you cann re connect. be careful not to kill the relationsip though....it is a delicate game
2007-02-28 11:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by bert d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being a good friend your going to need to step back a bit. If shes annoying you don't be rude about let her understand she needs to breath in and out at least 3 times. Get to set her thoughts back together and think about how to solve her problem. If she really cant do it let her know she can come to you, but only if the problem is far out of her reach.
2007-02-28 11:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am usually like your friend..I need to talk to someone I can confide when I feel down or upset about something. The thing is, I wouldnt want my friend to feel like you do right now. I suggest listening to her still, and if you have anything you need to talk about, she should be just as willing to listen. Best friends should always be there for one another, so stick with her the best you can and let yourself confide in her as well.
2007-02-28 11:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds alot like my situation. But you're still a good friend.....by listening. But do like me explain to her once and for all you understand whats going on...but dont let dat be you're everything....Also you can try to change the topic on something else..but be polite though. also you could try to hang around someone else....or do something else. There are many alternatives...you just have to make it right!!! Best of luck!!!
2007-02-28 11:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lil Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to tell her that you understand her problem and change the subject fast so that she cant talk about it anymore. If she brings it up again just keep talking about something different .. she might get the hint without having to risk and fight and the end of a friendship... or tell her that you know and she told you this before several times
2007-02-28 11:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 21:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋