I hate to be the jealous wife......and I am usually not, but my husband just started a new job and the company has already sent him on an overnight with one other person and them being of the opposite sex. They have to drive and spend alot of time together and I completely trust him but I have never met her and I just don't like it. I just need an opinion on how I should treat the situation.
2007-02-28 11:28:44 · 11 answers · asked by ac :) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Relax...if hubby wanted to cheat he would not have to go to all this trouble. That sounds harsh, but it's true.
2007-02-28 11:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Sometimes people say hate is a strong word and it can be... but in emotional moments you may really feel that way! Your husband may be bringing in the money, but it is uncomfortable that he's being sent away with another female so you have every right to feel the way you do. As long as your jealousy doesn't take over or you become consumed by it, I believe it can be a little healthy at times.
Just don't sound upset everytime you talk to him on the phone.. don't let him know how much it bothers you.... Try to have drinks together one night so you can meet the other woman.... but don't ever feel that being jealous is wrong.
2007-02-28 19:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. The fact is if a man and woman spend a lot of time together something is bound to happen. I don't care a crap about "equal rights" and all that garbage. Women in the work place, in situations like this, is just bad news. It is just too easy for something to happen.
As far as what to do about it? Just be up front with your husband and tell him... "if" he ever ever messes around, he is history. There is no way in *ell that you would want "it" once "it" has been somewhere else. Also if he is in a company that goes to the bar at the end of the day on one of these business trip I would be double worried. They always try to use the excuse "But I was drunk hun"
2007-02-28 19:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should keep your eyes open and listen to him. if you see a change in how he dresses and who he speaks of all the time, then you might want to mention it to him and get to meet her. If it is going to happen it will and there is nothing you can do to stop it. If he loves you and you trust him then I would not let it stay in my head all the time. But it sounds as if you have some doubt in him. Just be alert is all you have to do and see how much time he is away and why he has to be with her all the time. do not let the work he is doing come between you. If it happens to start try to taalk him into another job. If he won't go then you just got to bite the bullet or leave if it persists.
2007-02-28 19:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe I would make arrangements to meet her.. she MIGHT be homely looking or very happily married ..never can tell till you meet..if he was the cheating type. a man will find a way to cheat and you would not be the wiser toit...at leasty for a while.. a cheater always gets caught eventually..just meet the woman and let her know who you are and how you love your husband. most decent women woul;d reapect that.
2007-02-28 19:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by road runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband doesn't have to go on a business trip to cheat on you. If he doesn't cheat at home, what makes you think he is going to cheat while away?
As long as the company doesn't require them to share a room to save costs, you should be okay.
Call him at the hotel room, if you are insecure. Talk to him and tell him it makes you insecure, and let him re-assure you.
2007-02-28 19:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong lot of men cheat so your right to be jealous and worried his boss should know better than to send a women with your husband overnight
2007-03-04 17:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal that you don't like it, but unless he's willing to quit the job, i'm not sure he can do much about it.
If you're really nervous, you could go with him if you pay your own airfare and anything extra for the hotel room+meals?
2007-02-28 19:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be on the alert for "signs" of something developing...
If he starts to talk a lot about this person, if you start to hear her name a lot, that is a warning sign.
2007-02-28 19:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally normal to feel that way. Just try not to bring it up to him while he is away. And trust him, until/unless he gives you a reason not to.
2007-02-28 19:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kari R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋