I'm too antisocial, can you help?

Question

I am using the fact that I do independent study to avoid people.

I once went a week without going outside or talking to people and was fine.

I never talk to anyone if I can avoid it.

I have no social skills.

I hate parties and don't get invited to them.

This is pretty bad.

Signing back up for school is not an option.

What can I do?

Answer 1

First off I'm not a doctor or a psychiatrist, however what you are dealing with sounds like social anxiety disorder. Try going to: http://socialanxiety.factsforhealth.org/ that page has a definition for what social anxiety disorder is, how it is diagnosed, how it is treated, and how to find help. Education is so important so try not to let your anxiety get in the way. Try searching the internet for social anxiety, you will come up with tons of sites and resources to help you out.

Answer 2

Be yourself. Don't try to be social just becasue everyone else is.

Find a hobby, sport, or activity that you enjoy and you will find others that enjoy the same thing. You don't have to have a ton of friends to be happy, but a few friends will help.

Try something that you've never tried before...you might surprise yourself. Take a dance lesson, learn to play tennis, actively support a political interest, join a book club... Get a job where you take to people about soomething that you have passion about; if you like to ride a mountain bike, work at a bike shop...

but, be sure to get your education...the more you know the better off you will be.

Answer 3

You need to speak to a counselor about it. I have this problem too. I DO have social skills and people have stopped inviting me to do things because I always decline. There are many times when I go for days without leaving my house. It drives my husband and son crazy. But I just find I have more peace in my life by secluding myself from the rest of the world. I'm happy being a recluse. If you are not happy then you should try to change it.

Answer 4

I'm sort of like this too, but the only reason I didn't go out of the house for a week was because I was on vacation and I was perfectly content on my own for the time being. You MIGHT have a social anxiety disorder, but I don't think you do. Are you afraid of people for some reason? Did something happen in your past? If you want to talk you can e-mail me.

Answer 5

I can relate to antisocial behavior. For some of us, it's fine but if its getting to you that much you should find things you like to do and then find groups doing those things and join in. There's clubs for every interest out there these days and you being on the web shouldn't have too much trouble finding them. Join a team for pretty much anything, if your not the athletic type, go for the indoor sports like pool, bowling, even card games. Hope I was helpful.

Answer 6

Sounds like my bf. He is really antisocial like that too. It is a blessing and a curse I guess.

I suggest talking to a psychiatrist to help you work through this and get a proper diagnosis of what type of anxiety disorder you may have.

Good luck overcoming it!

Answer 7

I think the best idea would be to start going to a public school. You can meet people that maybe arnt as socialy active and you can join groups.....another good thing for you would be acting classes. You could find your personality and be open about your feelings. GOOD LUCK!!
:) ♥

Answer 8

i was just like you i was happiest when i was alone you have to take it slow and first get counseling then just start by making 1 friend who will be understanding and go out once in awhile and then expand that till you can sit in public in a large group

but i still like to just have days where i don't talk to anyone or see anyone

Answer 9

do volunteer work..coach a kids baseball team, visit a retirement home or better yet a convalescent hospital..be a candy stripper @ your local hospital, there are many teens of both sexes doing candy stripper work, you deliver mail and flowers, discharge pts to their cars..let visitors know which room their person is in..join your local theater group..you may be the star they are looking for..give it a try..you might like it. When you help others you forget all about yourself. .

Answer 10

You could have some type of situational anxiety disorder. This is real and not imagined. Talk to your doctor. You might have certain types of panic attacks in social settings. And if this is the case, you are not alone. Good luck and I hope he can help to free you.