Can I sleep with her then?
2007-02-28 11:16:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she's divorced and you marry her, yes. Otherwise, no.
2007-02-28 11:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am separated from my husband now...We have been "officially" separated for over a year and I say it's okay...I know the debate on here is going to be wait until she is divorced but I think each situation is different. I never thought in a million years that I could sleep with someone I was not in a relationship with...but this is turning out to be the best learning experience for me...and before I get (verbally) attacked on here I want to make it clear that I don't recommend sleeping around...I have been in a bad-sex marriage for 7 years...I am 33...I have a lot of catching up to do LOL...
and for the record, it would never be considered a rebound thing if she is only separated because a separated woman can't really date...morally it probably is wrong, but I can only use myself as an example in this...I don't really date, I mean how can I...I still live with my (soon-to-be-ex) husband in the same apartment (mainly for financial reasons and to keeps our kids close to their father) but he was the one to start dating first, which was fine with me because I truly want him happy to (we are friends, but nothing else)...if I was to start dating how do I explain that I still live with my husband...sounds crazy even saying it...so for me and me alone, if I choose to sleep with someone it is NOT for a relationship but lust as someone put it, purely physical...it is something that I have been depriving myself for a very long time and I am not getting any younger...of course, use protection and take care of yourself...I think once I am back on my feet financially I will file for divorce because eventually I do want to start dating again and have a normal life...
2007-02-28 19:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
won't you always feel like this was a rebound thing for her? don't you think that no matter how much fun you have, it will eventually get old and she might actually feel bad about what she did to those she left behind? (especially if they have kids together?) Do you think whatever feelings you have for eachother will surpass the bond she has with someone she has been married to for years? You have the right to sleep with her if she is seperated, but be sure to think things out before you act on lust
2007-02-28 20:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol that's a question you should be asking her! In my view if the separation is at least 3 months or more of course you can if she's interested in you. One always has to bear in mind the separation could end and back to hubby she goes. I hope you have feelings for her and not only after the sex. She is at her most vulnerable now so treat her well and with respect.
2007-02-28 19:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on alot of factors:
How long have they been separated?
Do you really like her or just want to hit it?
Is she still sleeping with her husband?
Is her husband crazy?
If you really like her, I would make sure they have been separated for more than 6 months and are on a fast track to divorce...if you just want sex...then WHY NOT?
If her husband's crazy...steer clear...it's not worth it!
2007-02-28 19:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you need to ask yourself why is she separated? Is it because of you is it because he cheated on her? Does she want to move on and the divorce is not final. I think overall you know the answer to that question. But I say HELL yeah, get a piece if you want. Just remember it does not mean she is coming back to you.
2007-02-28 20:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by loulou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't you people find someone who is NOT married?
NO!!!
Of course you CAN sleep with her, but when it comes down to it, do you think that she would really respect someone who could sleep with someone who is married? Do you think that you are trustworthy? Do you think that you could have a relationship with her, since she was still married when you started this affair? If so, do you honestly believe that she will respect you and not think that you would cheat on her?
2007-02-28 19:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not when she is only separated, just when she gets the divorce. this is only a separation she is still legally married till the divorce, so it isn't the right thing to do, plus if she decides to go back to him, where does that leave u?
2007-02-28 19:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is telling her husband that she is separated from that she's going out with let's say one of her girlfriends, but really going to meet & hang out with you. Then go for it because she & her hearts are were they want to be.
2007-02-28 19:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she invited you too? You may be putting the cart before the horse here buddy.
2007-03-04 18:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋