ok....im 16 and my brother is 3 and sister is 2. i was an only child for 13 yrs so i dont like sharing my mom. i get really jealous somtimes, esp when they are sick because then my mom spends alot of time with them. like 2night my sister got sick n throw up a little so my mom is huging her and stuff. plus my mom was upset i gusse and then she gets mad n cuz im the oldest the anger is thrown at me. i really want to get over this issues.
2007-02-28 11:15:31 · 10 answers · asked by gousa1991 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ps....my bro n sis just started preschool so they get sick alot
2007-02-28 11:16:03 · update #1
she gets mad that i bring up jealous
2007-02-28 11:23:24 · update #2
this is normal for your age to get jealous over a new baby, but u were baby for a long time so u are lucky.
U need to just help moma out and make her proud instead of
get jealous.
help the younger ones with potty training, let them follow u to potty and say pee pee and teach them young.
Help with writing skills, coloring, playdoe, ABC;s and fix their hair.
They will look up to u for guidance, so be a help instead of a burden to your Ma.
God Bless Ya and think positive.
2007-02-28 11:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your mom can't understand that what you are feeling is normal for some kids. She shouldn't be MAD at you!
And know that it IS normal what you're feeling. My stepdaughter was an only-child for 13 years and then last year I had my daughter (her sister), and although she absolutely ADORES her sister, she does get a little jealous sometimes when her dad and I dote on our daughter. But she never acts on it...she acknowledges her feelings, but never ever has let it get in the way of having a great relationship with her little sister, or with her dad and me.
It's important to remember that...to not take out your feelings on your brother and sister. I'm sure they look up to you so much and will continue to do so the older they get.
Maybe you could suggest to your mom that you have a fun day once a month, just you and your mom? Someone could babysit the little kids and then you and your mom could do something you both enjoy together for the day or evening. Just tell her you miss her. Chances are she's a bit stressed out having two toddlers who are getting sick often...that's VERY stressful. So if you come at her and whine about being jealous or want to talk to her when she's obviously not in the mood, she's not going to react in a favorable way. You could wait until there isn't any distractions for her and then tell her you'd like to have a chat when she's not busy. If you show your maturity, she's more likely to listen to you and want to hang out with you. If you react like just another child, she's going to be annoyed. You know, also--if you help her out a little with the kids, she'll appreciate that SO much. Don't just stand there and sulk when she's cleaning up puke...ask or offer to help her in some way...does she need you to go get her a clean rag? Does she need you to get the medicine for the kids? Etc. Just little things like that are such a help and she'll see you in a more respectful manner.
Good Luck!
2007-02-28 11:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Megan V 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you dear! My oldest was 9 before he started to get all those other siblings! My best advice is to tell your Mom about your feelings in as non-accusing manner as possible. I recommend doing it after the vomiting has stopped! You are still her oldest baby and she probably would like to hug you too! I am sure that every time she looks at them all her love for you wells up inside her! That is what happens to me atleast. My son has become my best buddy when it comes to taking care of the last three especially when Dad has to work late etc.
I'm sorry she's yelling at you! The frustration all too often gets it's outlet at the teenager in the household. Maybe you could get one of your friends to babysit some afternoon and you and her can go out and have grown up girl time together. Doing this every once in awhile will help you stay connected and help her stay sane! Remind your Mom that you are entering an exciting part of your life and you need her too. The hard part is waiting for a moment when you are both relaxed and not angry or frustrated.
2007-02-28 11:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be jealous of younger siblings, but mmost often the kids who get jealous and act like it are younger, say 5 or under. They don't know any better. You do. You are 16! Grow up and be respectful. You had your mother's undivided attention for 13 years. That shouldn't mean that you can't share it, that should mean that you understand how loved you felt and how happy you were to spend time with her that you want the same for your little siblings. It's their turn. You should be helping your mother with them not complaining and acting the same age as them. If you spend time with them helping her, you'll grow to love them and not resent them, which you seem to do now and you'll get to spend more time with your mom and she'll appreciate you and start treating you like a mature teenager not a jealous toddler.
2007-02-28 11:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by graybear 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not fair that you get jealous but I understand that you feel left out when you don't seem to be getting any of the time with your mom. Why don't you let her know how you feel but leave ou tthe jealousy bit. Just let her know that you never get any time with her and maybe if you help her out a bit when your lil bro and sis are sick she will appreciate what you have done and have more time left over for you.
2007-02-28 11:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents that you need to have a 'room of your own' ... even if that is just a 'corner' in the basement that you can 'block off' and call your own. At 16 years old you are far 'too old' to have to share with your 'younger siblings' for MANY REASONS ... and this 'jealousy' you have is not 'bad' ... it's simply because you 'parents' still think of you as being 'as little as they are' but you are 'growing up fast' and need some PRIVACY ... a place you can go to 'do things' and even 'just to sleep' that is ALL YOUR OWN. If nothing else, you could 'build' a partition in the room you now 'share' so that you don't have to 'share' your whole space with your younger siblings.
2007-02-28 11:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 03:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by catharine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a little spoiled . Life is all about sharing things and accommodating people who are sharing this planet with you. This issue with your little siblings is a good lesson in life.some day you may quite possibly have a family of your own and you have to share everything you own with them. Be nice to the little ones and be greatfull you have a functional family.
2007-02-28 11:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Maka 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what if you look at it this way you will get to have more freedom because your mom will be busy with the lil ones and you can spend more time with your friends
have you tried talking to your parents about this I'm sure your mom would understand and set aside time for you
2007-02-28 11:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 16 grow and stop complaining...
2007-02-28 12:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋