im just sad?

Question

i hate person that i have become becuse i've acting stupid my whole life. how do i break this cycle?

Answer 1

give yourself a break.
What follows are only suggestions based on my personal experience. They may be wrong for you.

Who says you've been acting stupid your entire life? You, right? Try to understand the reasons for your self-hatred. we all act stupid at some point or another. The difference is that most of us don't hate ourselves for it (or not anymore. I used to feel the way you do today). So, I would start by listing all the plausible reasons and put them in a personal context, according to important events in your life. Try to remember when you started to hate your self. Remember the events occuring in your life around that time. Don't try to fix or change your self, just figure out your self. You may need some outside help in order to distinguish objective from subjective. Counselors, Therapists, .... Locate someone who you feel comfortable with, even check out several and commit to one later. Becoming aware is a long but very interesting process. As far as being sad, maybe or maybe not. It does sound that you have a very poor self-esteem and a tough time accepting who the "modifying you" are. In case money is an issue, start by educating yourself on all these issues, speak to some people. maybe in place of a "professional" with very high fees, there's someone like a friend or mentor who could become your guide. Best to you

Answer 2

Work on it.
Anyone can improve their life all it takes is a plan and hard work.
You need to make lists of what is right and what is wrong in your life. Then start by taking one wrong per month and change it so that you can enter it into the right column.
So if one of your wrongs is that you push people away. Try to find out how to bring people close and break the habit.
We bring alot of baggage with us year to year. Cycles that we never think of breaking. Once something becomes habit it take a concentrated effort to break it.
One way is to have a bulletin board in your room with all sorts of reminders to help you break cycles.
Change the reminders each week using different colored markers or stars or something so that looking at it is fresh everytime. It needs to grab your attention.
Some of these reminders can be:
I am important
I am pretty
I am smart
I will have patience
I will be forgiving
I will be kind
I will accept those around me and not try to make changes
I will be happy

And so on. Then you must to this exercise every day twice per day "Look in your mirror and tell yourself that you love you". If you can not love yourself you miss out on love and happiness. If you do this enough you will start seeing a different you. Please try this for 30 days. See if it makes you feel better. I bet it will.

And start those lists. Writing things down is important because you make the brain connection. And once you are open to all your possibilites you can change.

Chear up

Answer 3

are you young? i feel i made the biggest mistakes in my like in my early 20's. I think its totally natural to make mistakes and feel stupid. YOU HAVE TOO, or you will never learn. Just tell yourself you want to start new and fresh. YOu already made the first step by admitting that you possibly made wrong choices, all you can do is try to not repeat them. If your impulsive and its literally really really difficult for you to make better choices then you should see ur dr. You could have ADD/ADHD or some other disorder that makes it hard for you to think before acting. BUT definatly DONT HATE yourself that is the worst thing you could do. LIFE IS TOOO DAMN SHORT to hate the person you are, pick your self up and do something that makes you feel better about the person you r. whatever that maybe. (make sure its healthy) this will pass.

Answer 4

The first thing is to stop saying those negative words to yourself - Look in the mirror and be proud of the little things that are good about you - take small steps at first and a big breath in between - You have talents that none of us have excel in those areas you will begin to see a big difference

Answer 5

How can you hate the "person you have become" if you've been acting stupid all your life?

Everyone does stupid things, heck I do really dumb insane things every day but who cares!

Don't think so much about what others think of you, if you do that it'll rule your life. Do you really want to live your life for others or for yourself?

Answer 6

Forgive yourself.
Love yourself for trying.
Seek the support of loved ones.
Avoid the near occasion of stupid.
That last one should be easy, now that you can recognize it.
Change takes place when you do things differently.
It can be done.

Answer 7

go 2 peekvid and watch the movie the secret