Cheating with co-workers, why has it become so common?

Question

I hate the idea of my man working around so many women, but I am getting over it a little. He has the same feelings, though he says he would never get involved with a co-worker, it something that I have seen to many times. Husbands cheating with women on the job, Wives cheating with men on the job, and single couples aswell.

Why do people leave their familes for a co-worker??? I know that you will be attracted to someone you work with, but why do people take it that far (sleeping together, and leaving their familes, etc.)

Answer 1

Common? Maybe not as much as you think or they're all doing it behind my back...

Now, I've managed a 100 seat call center and have seen sluts and dogs cut swaths through 'em. But very few cheaters. The problem with cheating with a co-worker, if it goes bad, it can go really bad. What guy wants to go home and tell his wife he lost his job because he was cheating on her? That's a double whammy. And I've seen it happen. He broke it off and she took some emails to HR claiming harrasment. She's still there and he lost his job and his wife.

They say 60% of men and 40% of women cheat. I don't know, I can't see any of my married friends cheating on each other. Maybe I'm just being niave, but... I think you are worrying too much about it. If you love him you have to trust him. I trusted my wife enough to marry her. Then I have to trust her enough to remain faithful. And vis-a-versa.

Now, that's not to say we don't meet people we're attracted to. I've met women in the work invironment who if I wasn't married I would ask out... But I am married. And I wouldn't want to be with any woman who would sleep with a married man. So I have a little trick. I talk about my wife & kids. That sends a signal, there is a line here not to be crossed. It helps define boundries and protects me from being tempted. And I can be friendly without worrying about being taken the wrong way. If your man isn't talking you up at work, then maybe you should worry.

My dad was a "Ladies man" More like a manslut. I remember he took me to work with him when I was 5 once. All the ladies were surprised that he had a kid. Took me years to understand, he didn't like talking about his wife & kids because that cut down on his options.... Me, I promised never to be like him...

Well, I hope my rambling has helped someone.

Good luck.

A~

Answer 2

There is a reason they use the terminology of co-worker as "working spouse" many time you spend more time with said co-worker than you do with your family. If you are doing good at home in your own relationship it should not be a problem. If things at home suck, you tend to open up to a close co worker, and then from there things sometimes just happen. It sucks but it is what it is. But like I said if you are all good at Home I would not worry about it. When someone steps outside their relationship they know full well what they are doing. There is no excuse to have an affair either at work or outside of work. If you want to have an affair, you should get first, the person being cheated on always finds out and that is a really sh*ty feeling.

Answer 3

OK, people work together 8 plus hours a day, We are dressed up showered and smelling great. of course we are the most attractive then. Th flirting can be harmless but when it goes past that onto more of a infatuation, that is where the problem lies. If there is a slight problem at home and you go to the office that person sitting next to you for 8 hours becomes someone you talk to and feel very comfortable with.

Answer 4

Because for the most part, they are immoral turds. They have little reason to feel guilty. They dont really fear a cost or price, for they know that their isnt much of a price for doing wrong anymore.

Hey, look at life. Even on here, simply telling the truth will get you a violation for it hurts someones feelings. Truth, morals and fact dont matter to most people anymore. Getting their own way and doing what they wish is what matters. Oh, and never having to hear they are wrong in what they do or who they impact. Dont leave that out.

Why would you think people would not be like your coworkers? Look, how often do you see people being perverts and still demanding we treat them as if they are normal? How often does one race think they have the right to decide how others have to look at them or view them?

Come on now. This is the result of liberalism, self gratification being so cool with everyone, and no judgments being leveled toward others anymore.

Simply take yourself for instance? Now, being honest, how many times do you really consider if you are wrong or right in what you think, do, say, want, etc? Do you really care about doing right if it means that you have to face the costs or give up what you like or want to do? Do you blow off what someone says if you dont like it instead of considering if they actually have a good and valid point? If these applies to you, then realize that your coworkers are being the same way.

Answer 5

Think about it, you spend more time @ work then you do @ home. When things start to go wrong @ home who is the first person you turn too. That one co-worker that you hang out with everyday talking about the ups/downs of marriage & family life. They feel they know you, you feel you know them. You know about eachothers spouses, eachothers history, home life ect... Your marrige isn't going well, there marriage isn't going well. So to be happy for the moment they decide to take the co-worker friendship, & turn it into a friends with benifits friendship. So now the two are giving eachother what they felt they were missing in their marriages. It's not right, but that's how it is.

Answer 6

I've never cheated with a coworker, but I did marry one. I think because you spend so much time with these people you can get close to them personally, sometimes too close. You figure at most places and most people, they spend more time with coworkers than they do with their spouses and families. I'm not saying it's right in any way shape or form, but I think that's what happens. They get too comfortable around them and they take the relationship to the next level.
I have seen it happen a lot too.

Answer 7

Working together has nothing to do with having a co-worker affair. Affairs happen between people who don't work together just as much. If you are fearful of an affair then I suspect there are other trust issues involved with you and your relationship. Pay attention to those.

Answer 8

they may be having problems in the marriage, and don't have enough sense to know that in a few years they will have the same problems with the new one as they have now. they are selfish, they lack judgment, have no impulse control, and they have no morals or or integrity, and have no conscience. they also have a lack of faith in god. it usually does happen with a coworker, as they work together have probably developed an emotional attachment with the other person, they think they can do better with the new person. they don't like to deal with the pain of problems in their marriage, and instead of working on them, they run away to escape the pain of having the problems.

Answer 9

It's so easy. Often you're spending more time with co-workers than you are with your spouse. And everyone is at their best, dressed nice, smelling good, smiling and friendly. Add all that to working in close proximity, going to lunch, working late and it's almost inevitable.

Answer 10

I think it boils down to how easy it is! Someone who is working can take long lunches, "work late," etc. It's a very easy thing to hide. Also the trill of doing something bad plays a part as well