my sex ed teacher didn't exactly make understanding sex easier when I was in her class, except with the basics like abstinance and making us watch the video (real baby birth, even in reverse) so I went on a research spree about sex, and that's when i decided that i wouldn't do it until i was married. but i instead started fingering myself and i had a weird, but good (great!!) feeling in my body. i kept doing it after that, but stopped for a few months, but now i do it when i bathe, weather bath or shower, and then started using a vibrating massager (not actually going up though) and that made it feel 10 times more great, like the greatest pleasure ever, and now i do it when my mom works late, but right after, or before i reach that first, wonderful feeling (which i think might be an orgasm) i start to feel bad, and guilty, and like a girl who will probably get pregnant before she's outta high school, but i still keep on doing it for that feeling. why??? PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2007-02-28 10:08:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Your guilt may originate from your upbrining. If you were brought up in the way of the bible, you may have been told that masturbation is a sin. Another reason for your guilt may be the subconcious thought that you are the only one of your friends or classmates that does it. Let me assure you, everyone, EVERYONE, including the teacher does it.
I congratulate you on the fact that that you have chosen to wait for sex, that is an honorable goal. The less risky sexual activity you have, the less you expose yourself to dangerous STD's anyhow, by that same token, you are a human being and have physiological needs that must be fulfilled. You are no the first, nor the last, to be in your situation, so don't feel guilty; what you are doing is completely normal.
2007-02-28 10:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your soul talking to you . your morals . and your concept of right and wrong.
you feel you will wait to have sex until your married fine.
you have your reasons for this .
you are having sex with yourself now. this is in violation of your beliefs.
your cheating yourself or so you think.
you have thoughts about sex while you do this . christ teaches that to lust after a married woman is the same as having sex with the woman who is not your wife.
this is an example of what you are doing you are not having sex . you are however pushing the envelope testing the limits
the limits are as i said at the begining.
some will say have no guilt its fine. i say have the feelings you feel are right and good. be true to yourself and to your beliefs.
i do it i must tell you and i have the same feelings as you . i am not married. simple . should i do it most likely not but i do from time to time. i am older this is not new to me so i may do this less then you . but i feel the same.
one thing about it is that after a time you may find you need more and more stimulation i mean you may find you imagine more then you go on to the internet or mags or something
then you have sex .
its all up to you and you beliefs do what you feel and know is right and dont let us convince you one way or the other .
you are growing up and you are now responsible for all of your actions seen by others and seen by you and god alone.
2007-03-01 05:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by s l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Masturbation is very healthy. Just look at it this way, it is much better to masturbate by yourself rather than have sex with others that may have STD's or get you pregnant. I am waiting until marriage as well. I am 17 and have been masturbating for I don't know how long. Don't feel bad dear, everyone does it : ) Have fun and experiment. If you have good willpower you will definitely make it to marriage.
2007-02-28 10:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Horsetrainer89 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with it, you feel guilty because you were used to think sex was bad, but it's not, it's natural and it's there for us to enjoy it.... you are getting to know your body and that will help you a LOT when you decide to take the next step... GOOD
And yes, that's an orgasm! congratulations, some girls never get one in their lives.
2007-02-28 10:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by User 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell yourself that you have absolutely nothing to be guilty about. Masturbation is a perfectly natural, normal thing to do. It feels good, and it helps you get to know your body. Everybody does it.
2007-02-28 10:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋