I've asked so many questions on here but I love to hear others views. Me and my ex of 7 years broke up and he moved 2000 miles away..Well, he moved before we broke up..I know there isn't another woman. I am pregnant with his child and we are very young...22 & 23. We had our wedding planned before the baby. Dr. said I would never be able to have kids..my ex wanted one and I ended up getting pregnant. We wasn't trying because of what the Dr. told me. He was very excited while I was kind of depressed because I wanted to be married and have my degree. Now, I wish he comes back and I know alot of people thinks that is stupid. We had a pretty good relationship, His father walked out on him as a baby. He tells me he misses me and loves me but picks stupid fights..Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?? I told him last night we shouldn't talk until we clear our heads..Has this every happened to anyone?
2007-02-28 10:08:31 · 8 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We was engaged before the baby...and I didn't trap his a**
2007-02-28 10:32:18 · update #1
I have seen this very scenario many times over. Actually this very typical among young couples today. Accidentally or planned, the father to be bolts under pressure of becoming a father and leaves mom and baby behind to fend for themselves. Not a good option but still happens none the less. It sounds like he has alot of growing up to do real quick here, but is currently very unsure of what he wants. he probably does want you back and misses you and probably does really love you but the responsibility of a lifelong father committment scares the hell out of him and thats what hes unsure of. This is something he has to come to terms with himself and theres nothing you can do for him other than to reinforce that you still love him and want him back when hes ready. So if youre not ready to give up on him, then just be patient, wait him out and hopefully he returns. No guarantees here, otherwise you can sue him for child support and he will get visitation rights, and chances are he will still return to you someday. Good luck
2007-02-28 10:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you currently pregnant? I guess I don't have anything in common with you, only that my husband is a truck driver and he is gone almost a week at a time, but we love each other and we learned to live with it already. If you two love each other distance should not be any kind of trouble. The problem is that he seems to pick fights with you for no reason and that is something to look into, why? Is he getting scared of commitment? You need to have a heart to heart with him, you don't need him to raise your child if it comes to him backing off, but it always helps to know that you count on your baby having a committed father!
2007-02-28 10:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting dilema. I firmly believe that one should never engage in any kind of unprotected (birth controlled) sex unless one is OK with having a child. Of course, if the man has a vasectomy and the woman a hysterectemy that sort of covers it! Children seldom make a relationship better. Please don't get back into a relationship thinking it will be OK because of a child. But you you do have some issues to face.
1) you raise the child with a very distant father and he pays child support.
2) he raises the child with a very distant mother and you pay child support.
3) he moves back to be closer so he can help raise the child.
4) you move closer to him so he can help raise the child.
5) put the child up for adoption.
6) there's probably a bunch more options......
Please get some professional help in sorting through these issues. God Bless.
2007-02-28 10:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Distance and time does make the heart grow fonder, my bf works out of town and is gone for weeks at a time. I do talk to him almost everyday and it's almost like he never left when he comes home. We pretty much pick up where we left off.
2007-02-28 10:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 23:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt want to marry a girl just because she's pregnant regardless if we've dated for a long time. I want to get married cuz she's the one and she's amazing. Once I break up with a girl it's kinda over. If a girl trapped me I would resent her for it. You should really finish school and maybe go see a counselor. Good luck.
2007-02-28 10:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people it has happened to and if not there are still issues that people have (little one and the big ones) when one of the loved ones is away somewhere. Yes, it is worth it to keep fighting listen to your heart and if you love him and he loves you it should be alright also, pray and god will help those who ask shall recieve .then everything should work out alright
2007-02-28 10:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by lexi b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should come back so you two can make a go of your marrige and be a happy couple who will soon be parents and give your baby a loving home with two loving parents that loves each other a lot
2007-02-28 10:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋