Just an example....I am a fitness trainer, being fit is an essential part of my career and my well being. Basically, during a conversation with a couple of co-workers, a woman said "Ha, just wait until you have children, you will not have time to work out." I HATE that! It is not my fault it is not a priority in your life! My children, husband, and self will greatly appreciate that I workout, it directly affects their happiness. Why does she want me to be fat and unhealthy?
I overheard a woman, the other day, telling a friend that her daughter is in Physical Therapy school. The woman thought that was great. The MOTHER said, "Bless her heart, she is not to book smart, she may not make it." I mean, it is HARD to get into PT school. I wonder if this woman just wants her to settle and marry a rich man, like she did. Maybe she is jealous of her daughter.
See what I mean!? What do you all think?
2007-02-28 10:00:42 · 12 answers · asked by fitgalmel1 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have five kids- ages one yr to 7 yrs- and I have time to weight train 3 days a week, and do a cardio workout 3 days a week. I got them all to take a nap at the same time, while the older ones are in school, and I workout in that time frame. If you really want it, you will find the time to do it. Don't listen to people like that. I would definitely say it has to do with jealousy.One person made the comment in regards to me working out and having children, that she couldn't beleive I had the time to do that, and that I must not spend much time with my kids because of that. That's anything but the truth. I allow a small window of my day to work out, the rest of my time goes to my husband and kids.Don't pay any attention to those people. You seem like you have a good life and alot going for you. Any child would be lucky to grow up in your home. And yes-you are right-working out does have a positive influence on kids. Sometimes in the summer I take them out there with me and we all work out together- and they love it. I even caught my 4 yr old doing crunches in the living room, and I asked what she was doing, and she told me"I'm excersizing, mommy!" They are very active and happy kids. Be proud of what you do, and don't listen to anyone who tries to bring you down.
2007-02-28 11:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree, although I do not understand this behavior.
EXAMPLE: I'm currently being mentored for a position of having a partnership with a larger company than my own. My mentor has stated that his goal is to see me be more successful than him, a difficult accomplishment; however I intend on doing so. I am the same way with my employees and interns, I want to see all of them do very well. I guess that I have lived by the idea that there is no bigger accomplishment than to teach someone and then seeing them do well. I heard a quote once, I'm unsure of its origin but it said "give a man a fish and feed his family once, show a man how to fish and feed his family for life."
I hope everyone succeeds one day if they are not already successful.
Always remember to do things for yourself and don't brag. 90% of people don't want to hear about your accomplishments and 9% of the others just want t hear it to use it against you or try to make you fail. If you do it for yourself, no one can take it away.
2007-02-28 18:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Adam H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People want others to fail, because people just have this tendancy to not want others to be good at things they can't be good at. I come across this all of the time, and I really hate it too. I think it comes from the competitiveness of most people. THere is someone I know who is constantly striving to be better than me, and constantly hoping I fail. But that is not the way to go through life, and to be honest, I almost feel badly for her. For her to feel better about herself, she has to see others fail so she can seem like she succeeded. Just try to ignore these people. Or maybe even confront them if it really bug's you enough. But honestly, it isn't worth the time or effort to worry about it. Just do what you love to do, and don't worry if somebody secretly hopes you fail. They probably want you to fail even more because they know you most likely will succeed. People don't wish failure upon those who will fail, because they already know that those people are going to fail. But i'm with you; those people really bug me!
2007-02-28 18:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rose♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is egocentric to some degree (ie . I am the most important individual in existence). Unfortunately, some practice this literally with a need to find any fault (even a manufactured one) in others to bolster the concept of their superiority.
2007-03-01 08:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by askafeld 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just so negative all the time. People have spoken to me like this a lot over the years. They're very antagonistic and wishy-washy. They're everywhere and you just have to learn to ignore them because caring what they say or think will drive you nuts.
2007-02-28 20:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by BRAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're called "blockers". You'll meet lots of those in life. Don't make friends out of them. You want "helpers' to be friends. Helpers encourage you to do better, they are happy you have a great boyfriend, good job, etc.
Blockers try to undermine your relationships, are jealous of your success, etc.
If you're lucky, you might have as many as 5 helpers in your life at any one time. Keep them close and cherish them.
2007-02-28 18:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's called leveling. It's so interesting to see so many people (mostly women I think) do this to others - but it is not about you it is about them. So DO NOT take it personally, just be glad you are not as miserable as they are. :)
See the definition below and see the article by Dr. Phil in the LINK below
3. Leveling
People who feel inadequate will sometimes try to "level" those who have what they want. Your success could pose a threat and cause them to sabotage you in any way they can in order to bring you down to their level.
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/71
2007-02-28 21:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♣♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they just want to feel like they are better than you. they are jealous b/c you are worried about yourself in the long run and you look better than they do.
that woman is probably jealous of her daughter b/c she is going to succeed in life were as to her mother didn't. a lot of people are like that. but the mother was just to lazy to do it. so she is trying to put her daughter down that way she can make herself feel better. if that was my daughter i would be proud of her.
2007-03-01 10:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by liznjames_08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those people are jealous and want to be the only one to suceed without any obstacles. On top of that, it looks like a revenge.
2007-03-01 08:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I don't think they realize the affect that their words have on people and then again they know exactly what their doing -
Consider the source and let it go
Be proud of you - No matter what
2007-02-28 18:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋