Two years ago my husband cheated on me with my twin sister. They were both drunk. My sister says that she did not want to have sex with him, but she did not tell him no she just let it happen. I asked her if he forced her and her answer was no. When I first started dating him he wanted to have sex and I said no and he was fine with the answer. He never did force me. All you have to say is no! Right/Wrong? I went to counceling with him and I still talk to my sister. Before this happend we had a good marriage and my sister was my best friend. We have two children and I love the family we have together. Currently I go to couseling for an eating disorder. I have no self confidence. Sometimes I think that I am just affraid to be alone. I was raised by just my mother and I don't know my father. So tell me what do you think about my LIFE? I do still love him and I love my sister. Do you think people can work through problems like this one? Thanks for your time!!
2007-02-28 09:58:55 · 10 answers · asked by ccl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm very sorry. I have been divorced for over a year because of an unfaithful wife. We both tried to work it out but it turned out that I was the only one trying. I do believe that if my ex would of tried to work it out, it would of worked.
My point is if both of you want to make it work it will, but it takes both of you. It also takes a lot of time.
My ex was also bulimic so i understand how difficult that is. Woman today ask to much of themselves and then when they cant be perfect they punish themselves. You sound like a good woman. Don't forget that.
2007-02-28 10:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
may be because u had no dad, when a dad is not there or not emotionally there i do think we become needy insecure women. if u still love him, and love your sister than just do your best to forgive them for this. get your self worth back, it was just a bad thing that happened, and it probably will never happen again. yes i think with therapy and your hubby being remorseful will help things, they were drinking and it lowers the inhibitions and sometimes when drunk people do things they normally wouldn't do. just work on u, don't let this destroy your marriage, it will take awhile to regain trust for him, but i am sure he will understand this. anything is possible when u have tow people wanting it to work.
2007-02-28 19:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you and your family have a life is a good place to start.the fact that your husband goes to counseling with you is another good place to start,you have acknowledged that you have a eating disorder and are undergoing counceling for that,this informs me that the steps to recovery are being addressed by all parties involved.Forgiveness is a healthy thing and your self confidence is evident by the manner in which you are dealing with this situation.Never second guess yourself because that first voice you hear belongs to God.
2007-02-28 18:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was 2 years ago. You need to let that go, or it'll eat you up inside....like it's doing now. I'm glad you still talk with your sister, because she isn't the one married to you......he is. Think of it this way, that was maybe a one time thing. It doesn't mean that he's still cheating on you. If you don't forgive him of this.....and you keep on bringing it up, it's going to start aggrevating him, eventually it may cause you to lose him forever. No guys like a wife that keeps on them. He knows that he made a mistake, and he'll have to live with it. But let it go. I'm glad that he never forced your sister, or you....so he's got morals too. I really believe that you and him can make it. If you have other problems, then communication is the key. We all make mistakes....and this was a big one on his part. So forgive him, and let it go. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-28 18:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes people can work through problems like this one. You are a much stronger more confident woman than I would be in your situation! I am proud of you!
2007-02-28 18:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you are still upset about your husband having cheated on you with your sister you should talk to your husband about it. that might be linked to your eating disorder. but if both your husband and your sister apologized i dont think you should think about it anymore. its the past and they were drunk. and most important of all do not blame yourself for what happened. good luck
2007-02-28 18:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Bruno S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
obviously you are working through this.....if it was a one time thing and you can get beyond it for the sake of your family then good for you......good luck...keep going to counseling
2007-02-28 18:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO...you need to focus on you and the kids.
With your sister...JESUS. I understand you have some issues, but this is simply him taking advantage of you and your willingness to be complacent. DUMP HIM.
2007-02-28 18:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
threw counsling and prayer you can work it out if you can't then only thing is divorce
2007-02-28 18:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And I thought I had problems. LOL
2007-02-28 18:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋