2007-02-28 09:57:01 · 11 answers · asked by robertkeightley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am male, and have often been employed as a babysitter, sometimes for a couple of hours, sometimes all night. I really look after them, feed them, read to them, get them settled, etc. They are in ABSOLUTELY NO DANGER. I wouldn't hurt anyone, but especially not a child. I think they're great, they can be so much fun. If I do an overnight, I often stand at the bottom of the stairs, just listening out. The first cry and I'm there! I really love babies, toddlers, children and that love just shines through in the care you give them. But yes, I recognise the dangers of employing men as child minders etc. When will people realise that some men just really enjoy babies and children? When my wife and I had our first baby (male) I stayed at home with him and my wife went back to her job. I looked after him for 4 years and they were the best years of my life. I come from a cruel and violent family, and to be able to LOVE someone and to treat them lovingly and tenderly was absolutely wonderful. This son is now 32 years old, and we are in contact somehow almost every day. Sorry to go on ... But PLEASE don't think that all men are molestors, paedophiles, violent, etc. Some of us just REALLY love babies and kids, they are wonderful. They trust you, and you can look after them and solve all their problems, and make them happy and quiet. What a privilege.
2007-02-28 11:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure just like any female babysitter that you have a good reference or 2 and a good feeling about the person...references are the most important and how you feel about it...i manage a couple of child care centers and hire males but the parents flip sometimes...depends on the age of the child, do they know the difference between right and wrong, truth and pretend, etc. Have the male come and spend time with you and child together to watch interaction and if the child comes up with NOT wanting this sitter after a couple of times, LISTEN TO THE CHILD.
2007-02-28 10:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by sweetie pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In theory yes, as long as the person has a valid CRB (criminal record bureau) certificate, they have a good CV and an obvious rapport with your child, whats the problem?
Alot of males working with children have been stigmatised as sexual predators or paedophiles. I am a male primary school teacher and have encountered this type of distrust from both parents and fellow professionals alike.
I'm guessing that what I have just mentioned is your main concern and the point of your question. At the end of the day it boils down to whether you would feel comfortable with a man looking after your child, especially bearing in mind that a recent Government report confirmed that 99% of sexual attacks on children were perpetrated by males.
2007-02-28 10:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by timbo 230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i wouldn't. i know this sounds terrible and you hear terrible things about women too. but i also would not leave my kids w/ anyone i did not know. i had a very uncomfortable situation when i was a child w/ an older male. not that they are all bad but you hear of so many rapes. my children stay w/ their dad, grandparents, aunts, and godparents that is it. they do go to daycare, which i know the ppl that work their very well and did long before they went there. they have all female workers and is done through a school.
2007-02-28 14:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by kchase 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldnt. I am sorry to all men out there who are responsible kind people, but when it comes to your kids take no chances. It is a fact of life that children are more often sexually abused by males rather than females. Even if you think you know someone inside out, you probably don't! My niece was sexually abused by my sister's new husband when he was supposed to be babysitting. Your children are small for a very short period of time (although it seems like ages!) Take no chances at all. Its not worth it.
2007-02-28 19:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not . In my experience, men simply can't give kids the amount of attention that they need. (or maybe women think they need more attention than they truly do) All that i know is that my husband is by far the world's best dad, but he still can't take care of my kids the way that i can. They are fine when they are with him (my daughter is even becoming a daddy's girl) but he just doesn't do things the way that i do, and ,of course, i think my way is right=0.
So........a guy who isn't related? I doubt it!
2007-02-28 12:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I babysat my piano teacher's daughters once. I was probably 15.
I wouldn't hire someone that I found in the Yellow Pages. I would only trust family or the neighbor's kids.
2007-02-28 10:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male or female I only had family and close friends family's you have to be so careful as long as it is someone you know or know the family I wouldn't have anyone else. Mine are grown up I have grandchildren and my son follows with what I did. Be careful.
2007-02-28 10:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes as long as I already knew them. I wouldn't let my kids stay with a stranger anyway.
2007-02-28 19:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by wendywitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if he's fit! i'm a single MILF
2007-03-01 07:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by Emma K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋