I'm a transgendered M-F, pre-op. I was married - still am - for several years, but I've come to realize that I'm: (1) not interested, sexually, in my spouse (though I love her deeply); and, (2) very interested in men. I've been hit on in straight bars - even asked out - by men that don't "know". I've held off for 2 reasons - trying to be faithful and not wanting to deal w/"telling" a straight man. I guess I've been a bit sheltered but I'm now learning that there actually are guys out there that like girls like me. I'm thinking that if I could get involved w/such a guy, that I could remain married - at least until my kids are older - that beats divorce. I just don't think that abstinence is an option anymore. This is serious - I'm really a good loving person. Thanks.
2007-02-28 09:42:57 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You need to be honest with your wife. She deserves to know what you are feeling.
2007-03-01 05:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by JML 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen some straight couples who stayed together "for the kids" and it didn't work. The kids felt responsible for the unhappiness of the parents.
Your FIRST step is to have a full on, open discussion with your current wife. What happens next depends on the outcome of that discussion.
Good luck, ma'am.
2007-02-28 20:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋