Is it wrong to be choosy when meeting new friends?

Question

I feel alone in life, because I live in a different city now from all my friends. And I have no family to speak of. I try to make new friends.

But I feel like I judge too much, based on looks, education level, social and financial status. I know this is wrong, but how can I get over this? I really need friends in my life right now, and it's hard to make new ones.

Answer 1

It's not wrong to be choosy!! The standards for friends don't need to be nearly as high as those for choosing a mate. You need to give the formation of freindships a bit of time as you continue to make acquaintances.

But you may be overscreening. Take those four categories you mention, and any others that occur to you (you didn't mention character) and evaluate them. Rationalize your way to choosing the very most and least important. Put the rest in the middle in order.

Now that you have RATIONALIZED them, see if you truly accept those choices emotionally. "Evaluate" a few friends from home, and a few new acquaintances. Does your "list" ring true? Now, scratch the least important or two right off the list.

Go places where you are most likely to run into people who may have you most important traits. You are cautious enough that you won't throw yourself headlong into any new friendship, so you will find that acquaitances and close friends separate themselves out naturally.

BUT!!! Now that you know your comfort zone, throw out the list, and bring back spontaneity!!!

Answer 2

Nooo
if everyone wwasnt choosy, then everyone would be friends w/ stalkers, murderers, and molestors!

srry, just looking out 4 ur best interest : )