Can you help me with my friends sexual difficulty?

Question

Please be curtious with your answers. My friend is very open with me and has asked me a question and I do not know the answer, and I was wondering if you could help me? He thinks that he might have a disorder or something bcuz when he has sex, he can not last longer than 10 minutes unless he is drunk or something. He 'finishes' really fast and he just wants to know if that is a problem? Please don't be rude with your answers. He is really scared.

Answer 1

You require professional advice! The issue maybe medical, mental or nothing at all.

Most of my young life, my condition was as you described your friend.

Then, in Korea, I met a young lady that I truly fell in love with! Later on, at the beginning of my first sexual relationship with her, I had issues with myself as not being able to sustain a meaningful
period of time during the sex act.

I do not know, nor can I explain, how it came to be that I had no limit as to how long or how much we wanted to engage ourselves. It was truly beautiful!

We have now been married more than 28 years, and it is still so.

It could be that your friend has not really met that very special person! Remember, over 50% is mental. Consider how much you think about your partner, what he does, the way, what you imagine being done, how you want things to be, what you will do to/for him - all before you start to undress!

Often that will cause people to reach the first high point before they are even naked!

This doesn't happen, all the time, when people just engage in random sex! Too, everyones needs are different!

Your friend might need to pay more attention to his mate, what she needs, how she is breathing, the way she unconsciously moves as he nears her, where and when to touch, and how to enter her slowly, just a bit at a time, to give the illusion of infinite length.

Some want to be taken, other want to give, too there are those that need to be seduced!
He must take time to know her or leave her alone. Doing less will only destroy his confidence and her desire for him!

Answer 2

Hey. I'm not sure how long your Friend has been active. But if he is young, like under 25. His problem is pretty common. ask most girlfriends and wives of young males. more than likely experience or lack of interest would cure that. Experience over a long time is allot better than board though. I personally have been able to go for a ridiculous 30 hours with 3 women. pointless and pain-full.... after 2 hours it is plenty. now Still if I get really turned on I can have an under a minute finish if I let myself. allot of it has to do with the balance on the mentality and physiology. they effect each other. If his only problem is a Quick Shot. He really doesn't have much to worry about. easy cures are soon as you get partially close switch to using other stimulation on the woman and let your tool cool a few minutes. If his problem is keeping an erection - without reaching orgasm, I would suggest a medical professional. most likely that is simply a chemical issue. and don't let your Friend fall for any of the drug advertisements. If he is worried, still, after the feed back, check with a professional. and no mater what Do not Self medicate without first seeing one. or if there is no damage, he could get some from lack of knowledge and using a product he does not need.
hope this helps: Joe

Answer 3

Tell him that there are methods to make him last longer.

One is mental. When he gets ready to finish, think of something horrid like his granny naked or dead rotted babies. It takes his mind off pleasure and stops the finish. Of course he can also think about other things like sports while he is making love to keep his mind off it. The drawback is that he may get trained to get aroused at the sight of granny or dead babies or at sporting events. The later would be bad. Getting aroused at a sporting event would get your fellow participants to think he was gay.

Another method is chemical. Taking 2 extra strength tylenol about an hour before reduces sensation and therefore reduces speed. Not enough loss sensation to have an issue though. Just enough to be good.

He can also purchase creams that numb the unit and add time. This has it's drawbacks since if it is numb, he may have trouble keeping it in a usable state.

There is also the start stop method. This takes time and practice. You basically go at it for a bit until he feels it coming on and then stops until the feeling subsides. Then you start back up. Again, this has it's drawbacks. If you wait just one second too long, you finish whether you want to or not. It can also act like it finished and go limp.

Most men last much longer the second time around so you may want to suggest that he either finishes himself first or with help from his partner and then wait 5-10 minutes and have a real go at it. Oral foreplay is always a good thing and helps the female finish at least once so she isn't too disappointed if the male finishes before her second or third time.

Yes, the male organ actually does seem to have a mind of it's own and can be quite difficult to control. One misplaced laugh can have years of lasting disfunctional issues.

The male arousal is mostly visual and manual stimulation but there is also a psychological part that is very real and very difficult to get around.

Answer 4

If he is a young man (less than 20 y/o), that is pretty normal--in fact pretty long-lasting, compared to SOME more self-centered young men. At least he seems concerned about his partners' needs.

There are other things he can do, to slow down his climax, which work better with the help of an understanding partner. He can be stimulated to near-orgasm (either through oral or manual stimulation, or intercourse), and at that point, squeeze the base of the penis, until the urge subsides. Practicing this technique (developed by Masters & Johnson, world famous sexologists) over a few weeks should help him learn to be more in touch with his impending release, and get a feel for how to delay it temporarily.

At least, if he IS a young man, he should be able to bounce back quickly, for another round, if she has not quite had her fill.

Another stop-gap measure is to use something other than intercourse to get that first load out of the way, so he can concentrate on pleasing his partner, over a longer period of time than 10 minutes.

I hope this helps, and you can come at him with the right answers for his plight.

Answer 5

10 minutes is longers than most guys last. I'd say the average is around 5 min. In a sexuality class I took, we learned that men ejaculate fastest in the missionary position, followed by doggy style, but that they last longer when the girl is on top. Also he can try pulling out when he feels like he's close to orgasm and wait a few seconds until he's calmed down a little and thought about something else before continuing. Pinching the head of the penis when he feels like he's close to orgasm is also supposed to slow things down.

Answer 6

well thats because your friend is having sex...you finnish rather quickly when you do it right...if he WANTS to slow it down then he can have a drink or two or pleasure his partner first....sometimes doing it slower or pulling out more often and trying a new position can keep it at bay. but the point is its compleetly normal. And the reason its not that fast when hes drunk is because alcohol dulls the sensory nervs. Sex just doeant feel as good even if the girl looks hotter.

Answer 7

Your friend is normal, especially if he is a teen. It takes some work and experience to push out the coupling time.

Here is a wonderful trick that works great. I call it "doing the nine."

He pumps nine times, slowly and only half way or less in. Then he pumps eight times partially and the ninth time all the way in and hard. Then he pumps seven times partially and two time to the hilt. Continue until its is once partiall and eight hard, full strokes immediately follow with nine full hard ones. It drives the women crazy, and gives the guy lots of staying power. It sort of acts as a distraction and gives a nice short term goal.
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Answer 8

10 minutes? So that's 5 * 10 = 50 minutes on a good night. The guy must be a legend.

Answer 9

I think he is concentrating too much on his own enjoyment, a good lover takes his time to make sure his partner is completely satisfied by having as many orgasms as she can. What he is experiencing is normal for a young man, hes just excited that hes getting laid. A good lover never stops until she is begging him to finish, or until she passes out from exhaustion. He needs to learn that foreplay will get his woman hotter than pounding on her like a rabbit. Patience, kissing,caressing,touching licking is the secret to a great lover. Hopes this helps.

Answer 10

This can happen a lot.

Tell him that foreplay is key! If he knows he is a fast finish..and it is important for him to satisfy his significant other, then foreplay will make it last longer and it will also help the partner to get where they need to be without him finishing first.

There are things on the market that will allow him to last longer too.