I'm 20 and i feel like my life is going no where, I have been afforded every opportunity, i've been in college traveled to other states and countries, and yet now i feel like i'm procrastinating my life away... I'm doing nothing with my life right now... i've had many jobs (never been fired) and now i feel like i can't get my life started in the right direction again... I don't know what to do i'm considering joining the military. My family just wants me to figure out what i'm doing with my life, I just want to get a job and move out with my friends, be on my own so i can figure myself out! has anyone been there can anyone help with advice?
2007-02-28 09:31:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
It's fine, you'll figure out where you're going in the next few years. hopefully.
2007-02-28 09:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people still do not know what to do with their life when they are in their 60's. As long as not knowing does not interfere with living your life, then it doesn't matter. But if it bugs you that you don't know, then thats all the answer you need.
I suggest that if you are vague about what you want to do, don't join the military. That is a commitment that requires a lot of determination. And at the moment you are likely to get shipped to a war zone. So don't do it unless you are certain that that is what you want to do.
Another suggestion is to do now things that will only get harder to do as you get older. Do college now. You can always come back to it latter, but right now your skills as a student are as sharp as they are ever going to be, and as you get older you will have responsibilities that make college more difficult.
Some people also choose this time to travel. Again, you have fewer responsibilities and commitments at 20 then you will at 30 40 and so on.
As a last point, have you considered the possibility that you are depressed? Being depressed can really screw up your ability to make decisions and set goals. Other things can do this too though so don't jump to a conclusion.
2007-02-28 17:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by bsandyman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES BEEN THERE DONE THAT: The wrong thing to do is a major life changing action (joining the military). FIND THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY, this will guide you in your course of studies. At this time, although you have been to college, you need to study what you F E E L you want to.
It could be the waves washing up on the beach or a leaf blowing in the wind. What ever catches your attention, you need to study it closely. This course of study will define you as a person. It will ground you and permit you to have a base to deal with what life throws at you. All those people (friends & realatives) are rooting for you to decide what you want. Once this is done, they can support your activites.
Many people will not understand why you choose to do what you do, but they are only required to support you. As people we support so many people and wonder why. This is what is surpose to hoppen.
Once you see your path forward, you will be down it and everybody will be amazed that you are doing what you are doing. The only person that will not be surprized is YOU, it will make perfect sence to you at the time it happens.
2007-02-28 18:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by whatevit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 20 you still have heaps of time to figure it out and only a very few people really have their lives figured out by then. Moving out will be good for you, it will help you find yourself a bit more, get to know yourself. I struggled with it too and I'm still getting there. I At 26 I went back to uni to do what I REALLY wanted to do. It is a work in progress and I still don't totally know where I am going but knowing that it is in the direction that I want it to be in helps put my mind at ease. The military might be a good time killer and help you learn some good discipline but if you are wanting to get out and think for yourself then the military is not the place to do that.
2007-02-28 18:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only 20, don't stress about it. Your 20's is the time to explore, get to know and understand yourself, try different things, figure stuff out.
Try to be independent at least. Get a job that allows you to get your own place. And save money so that when you figure out something fantastic you want to do, you have the means to do it.
I was going to say you've got the best years of your life ahead of you, but that's not true. Anytime of your life is the best if you have the right attitude.
2007-02-28 17:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by eleven 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you go in the Navy you have the best chance of not getting into any combat situations. Due to the fact they mostly use Army and Marines for that. You could look into whats called the Job Corps. They teach you a trade and feed and shelter you. Good Luck!
2007-02-28 18:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find your niche and don't be afraid to take a chance on your future.I see nothing wrong with not knowing what you want to do with your life. I know 45 year olds who don't either. You do however need to step out on faith and do the damn thing. If all else fails... with a good credit credit score you can get a loan and open a small business.
Open a clothing store... sell skateboards and unicycles... can you cook? Follow your dreams Honeychild... or go on into the service. I did!
2007-02-28 17:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by fatbabyceesay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometime it is not life itself that bothers you but the pressure everyone is creating. It is perfectly ok not to know what you want to do with yourself at 20, so don't let that keep you down. Travelling and changing jobs is good, it might help you decide what you really want to do.
2007-02-28 17:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by zmayche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still don't know. You sound like the younger version of me.
My parents felt the same way. They tried pressuring me into being like them...Lawyer, CPA...
All I know at this point, is that money makes a difference between the job you want to do and the job you are stuck doing.....
BTW, If I had the money I would open my own Greenhouse/Nursery/Landscaping Business....
2007-02-28 18:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by educated guess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its alright experiment with college and what you want to do, and what your friends are going to do...its all normal it all depends on whats important to you though, so if partying and not going to college is what you want you can crash and burn until ur 35 and have a mid-life crisis....but i advise to make a path of where you want to go by age 26, start by looking at jobs in the newspaper or online that interest ur personality and strengths.hope this helps..:/
2007-02-28 17:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by jon f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should obviosly find out there is no problem with not knowing. but you should think long and hard is the military good for you. and if not then think some more do you want to jump from job to job to job. do you want to work at burger king or do you want to go to college and study something spacific.
2007-02-28 18:00:01 · answer #11 · answered by vallan1015 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋