Ok. So I'm 18 and am 7 weeks pregnant. My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years and have decided to keep the baby. We have already told his parents, but havent yet told mine. How would you/ or did you tell your parents? (Serious answers Please)
2007-02-28 09:31:17 · 24 answers · asked by BrittanyB 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
we both have well paying jobs.and we are not going to get married until he is out of high school, so that would be in a year and a half.
2007-02-28 09:46:27 · update #1
and yes my parents have met him obviously since weve been dating 2 years and they love him to death
2007-02-28 10:19:05 · update #2
make sure your boyfriend goes with you so he can support you. if his parents support your decision or are willing to help out ask them to go along as well. this will give you support and will allow them to see that you are cared for and you've made a thought out decision. his parents and your parents can talk and which may put your family at ease a little bit knowing that they are in the same position too. just tell them that you want to have this baby and if they arn't willing to support you, there are others who are. ask for their help and guidance and remind them that you love them and this was not to hurt anyone.
2007-02-28 09:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by parveeahmed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have your bf close by but not in the room. You are about to announce something that is changing you parents lives. Sit them down and tell them that you really love your bf and while you were together you made a mistake. You are pregnant and so sorry but it is important to your morals that you keep the baby. Apologize and take full responsibility. Let them know that you will handle this but need their help. Then leave them bythemselves to think things over. Then go be with your bf for spport. Also be aware that teen mothers put their children up for adoption all the time and that if you do your child will go to live with a good family that is prepared for this gift. I was adopted because my mother was 17 and I am glad she made that decision. I know that in my heart I love my birth mother but I would never have wished to be the burden that forced my mother to become a parent when she was not ready and make her feel obligated to marry someone before she had seen the world and gone to college. I am in love too and I think your decision to keep the baby is verry mature but dont let it be a part of your life if you cannot provide it with the vary best. Good luck. My heart is with you.
2007-02-28 17:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really difficult situation. If I were in your shoes I would talk with my boyfriend about all future plans first. This sounds kinda dorky but I would actually make a list such as: how are the medical expenses going to be paid and what are the living arrangements going to be. I would also make a list of items the baby will need such as: a crib, clothing, shoes, bibs, diapers, formula, car seat etc. This can help show your parents that you and your boyfriend have really thought things through and that you are determined to make things work. If the living arrangements involve your boyfriend's parents be sure to ask them before listing it. If I were you I would then, lists in hand, sit down your parents and explain the situation. It is obvious that your parents are already going to be upset by the situation but it is important to try and stay calm while describing all this to them. Try telling them that you realize what you did wasn't exactly in your best interest but you are going to make this work and having your parents' support would really help.
Here are some websites that might be of help:
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/teenagepregnancy.html
http://www.pregnancy.com.au/teenage_pregnancy.htm
The second site has a previous teenage mom's email address listed on the site. I'm sure you could email her with this question, she would definitely know how to answer.
Hope this has helped and best wishes!
2007-02-28 19:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by artisdestiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was in your place at one time. First i would ask my parents could my bf come over for dinner and while we are there I would make sure he was by my side and we would both tell them together. Your 18 that means your an adult and you can make your own decisions if you want to. But be honest and true to them when you tell them. Congrats on the new baby!!! and i hope all is well when the baby is born. Good Luck.
2007-02-28 17:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Thick-N-Cute 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay another 18 year old here! Let's see...I would speak with my mom first and then have her tell my dad when I'm NOT home and he's had time to rage and blow up because when he first hears about this...trust me, you might not wanna be home! Moms always understand better...just take her into a room and be like Mom I really need to talk to you about something. Of course she's going to be concerned and worried and then built it up so she expects the worst and then tell her you're pregnant..something not that horrible and so she might feel releived even. That's what one of my friends did- she was 17 and pregnant and got her mom so worried because she would wake up every morning and throw up and stuff and then when she finally told her mom her mom started crying and then said she was so glad she was pregnant and that she thought she was dying or on heavy drugs or something. So just tell your mom privately and have her tell your dad when you're not home and he's had time to recover. That's what I'd do! Anyways- good luck and YOU CAN ALWAYS EMAIL ME if you need more help about this!!! :-)
2007-02-28 17:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your parents you are pregnant, no matter what you say before they will probably be taken by suprise! Your 18 now and having a baby, you shouldn't be afraid to tell them, you are going to have many more things to be afraid of! Maybe you could bring his parents with you so you could all sit down and have a mature non judgemental conversation!
2007-02-28 17:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by divinity2408 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have all of your ducks in a row. Such as, who's getting a job, are you going to school, where's the money coming from, where you will live, where the supplies are coming from, etc. That way you look like you've thought it through fully, which you have. Good luck with your new baby!
2007-02-28 17:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I would say something like mom, dad I'm sorry and don't be mad at me...but I'm pregnant, we are going to keep the baby and i hope you can except it...you have to tell them bc if they find out from someone besides you...it will be so much worse
2007-02-28 17:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear you believe honesty is the best policy. Remember one thing, if either of your parents demand abortion. the fetus is the victim and does not deserve that. It was not the fetus's he/she were conceived. Will your child grow up and find the cure for cancer or some other item that will benefit world peace? The mistake is yours and it appears you are ready to stand up and correct the issure postively. When are you getting married?
2007-02-28 17:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by KIB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
before you go tell your parents, sit with your bf and talk about it. talk and write exactly what you want and are goign to say. omce you got this figure out, you wont subborn when your parents ask you questions or yell at you(depending on your parents) then make your bf go with you so he can support you and make you feel more confifent. good luck and take care.
2007-02-28 18:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anna T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋