2007-02-28 09:26:36 · 25 answers · asked by ericatnn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't doubt him for no reason. You are punishing yourself and him for things he isn't doing. Your doubt will be the end of your marriage unless you can snap yourself out of it.
2007-02-28 09:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can worry if you want to, but what purpose would it serve? Would it help you to support your husband while he is performing the toughest job any of us will ever have? Will it help your marriage...the seperation is hard enough. Will worrying about it help you sleep at night? Will it make you feel like a woman who is loved, cherished and adored?
Basically, I can't find a GOOD reason to worry about it.....
Also.....and this might be hard for you, and many others to stomach....but if he does cheat.....is it not understandable?
My husband (who is now my ex) was deployed and on the front lines during the first gulf war. What he went through, many things I will never know because they are classified, I will never understand.
If, at somepoint during your husbands deployement, he needs the comfort of another, I say that during the time of war, it is a forgiveable sin. I don't think he would be "cheating" on you in the classic sense.
I hope though, that he doesn't, and that when he comes home, you can look him in the eyes and truthfully say the same. Let's face it, the number of cheaters is greater where military wives are concerned.
Good luck to you my dear. Your family is making the greatest of all sacrifices, and we appreciate you.
2007-02-28 09:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could but it won't do any good. If any person is going to cheat they're going to find a way. However, in your case I can see where the mind would wonder. When you feel insecure, instead of trying to check up on him. Do something nice for him. This way no matter what, you know you've done all you can do and if he's not cheating then you get bonus points for being such a wonderful, supportive wife! Good luck, I hope this helps.
2007-02-28 09:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was deployed last year for a year, and I pondered on that too, but there is alot more going on over there to think of than cheating, if you trust him and he trusts you, you will have no problems, and think its about 100+ everyday and everyone is sweaty and dirty ALL the time....ewwww........that is a direct quote from my husband. Just relax and think of him and you and that is it. This is the hardest time you will have, too many thoughts going through your mind and all its doing is confusing you. if anyone thinks that the other is cheating it will be him, mine did over a spam email i received, but its just the seperation for a long time that is all, just love him and support him and he will do the same...God Bless you and your husband, HEROES!
2007-02-28 10:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by mistine520 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. First of all, he's not cheating - he has way more on his mind. Secondly, cheating means he has to go out and try to find another woman. Men are essentially lazy, so rare is the man that will make this effort when under so much additional pressure. When he gets home, though - Whoa! Momma - he will be all over you!
You will drive yourself crazy thinking about the "what if's". You should be concentrating on keeping your home safe and whole for when he gets home.
2007-02-28 10:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By asking this you are admitting that you believe it is possible for a committed and married person (such as yourself) to cheat. After all you're on your own without the other. The reality is that you are the one at home with the house and car and bank and opportunity and....shall I go on?
Or maybe you know about your husband having a thing for camels.
Obsess much?
2007-02-28 09:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you shouldn't be worried... If he's gonna cheat, it will happen with or without you worrying - so might as well keep your sanity and peace of mind. You will have to learn to be strong and trust him, otherwise any relationship will bring you a lot of grief - the temptations are always there; c'est la vie.
2007-02-28 10:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In todays world, that should be the last thing you should be worried about. Its a deadly thing with the civilians and cant with fellow soldiers> Worry more about him getting out alive and back home to you. Thank him from us former vets and pows for serving our country and God Bless him and his fellow servicemen and wish them a speedy and safe return.
2007-02-28 09:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about it? If he is having sex, it's just that, sex. No feelings involved just someone to relieve his needs.
When most military guys are seperated from their families for such a long period of time it's unreasonable to think they can hold out for 12 to 18 months. You shouldn't have to hold out either.
When he returns love him as if he had never been gone and don't worry about where his friend with the little head has been. I'm sure he would wrap that rascall before going swimming ;).
2007-02-28 09:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Frankly, that should be the least of your worries!
Is your husband inclined to cheat? If yes, then he is going go cheat no matter where he is.
You can't do anything about it anyways, so let it go.
2007-02-28 09:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no just worry about him and his mental and physical health,cheating is the least of your worries. get some counseling or some other support while hes gone to help you threw this.check out this web site it may help
2007-02-28 10:03:53 · answer #11 · answered by raindovewmn41 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋