Why do i hate myself? Lately i have been so insecure and even just a glance off ppl makes me upset why?

Question

I get started at people a lot, i am gay and really want a boyfriend but i cannot approach any lads and when i get looks off lads i get really shy and run a mile, if they approach me i shy away and feel like i hate myself for it, ppl must think i am really hard to get to know, i want to be myself, stop hiding and being afraid and make new friends or find a new boyfriend but shyness and anxiety are really getting in my way wot can i do? I hate myself and if anyone stares at me especially lads i feel depressed cos they might like me and i am so shy i cannot do a thing about it, i want to be ME and just approach lads and others, i want to be myself, wot can i do?

Answer 1

i do the same thing with guys and chicks. try taking a breath and talking to them. open up and take a risk.

Answer 2

As a matter of fact in the Bible, God said that he made the heavens and the earth, and the plants and animals and everything on the earth that exists. Then God made Adam, a Human above the animals, and God made man in Gods image. But after a while Adam was lonely so what did God do? You can pretty much fill in the blank from here. God could have given Adam anybody to talk to; another man a monkey, any thing or animal in the Garden Of Eden. But God didn't give Adam just anybody or anything, God gave him Eve, a fe-male to spend the rest of his life with. And then Eve of course ate of the tree of knowledge and Adam also instead of eating just from the Tree of Life which they would live forever from eating just it, and then God threw them out of the Garden Of Eden because they ate from that tree which god said not to do because they would surely die. Then God said for Adam and Eve to prosper(have a wonderful life) and multiply(have kids so they can exist and have a wonderful life also) which is why we now exist including you.

Basically the reasn why you are insecure about yourself if your way of thinking. It takes a man and a woman to have kids wether that man and woman choose not to even have kids which some do because they want to have "A CAREER" instead. A married man and woman that try to have kids but can't are excluded of course, they usually adopt anyways. I personally think it's pridefull and arrogant not to get with a person of the opposite sex then have babies with that person because if your great great... grandparents didn't do that you would have never been born. Just think of how long humans have been around, how many thousands and thousands of years, and then it stops with you here and now?

Answer 3

I feel the same as you and the Dr's call it social anxiety. I understand how very hard this is. I suggest you see a counselor or psychiatrist and see if you can be put on an antidepressant that helps with that very issue.

Answer 4

Your station is as noble as all other human beings.
We are all spiritually created in the image of the One True God. Skin colour, gender, social position, cultural background, intellectual abilities...are of no importance. God does not ask us to present to Him any products of dust; He counsels us all to return to Him with a pure heart.
Please read the Holy Books and enjoy the pleasures of doing the Will of God, and not the will of man. What values exist in people who hate you or look down upon you? So, learn the truth and save yourself.

Answer 5

I think you might just be shy and have some self esteem issues. Try not to worry when people look at you. Everyone looks at everyone, so dont worry :)

Answer 6

You're sensitive.Ironically,this means that you're better than many.Your self-criticism betrays this.
Know that you're sensitive and good and far better than you give yourself credit for being.