How do i tell my mum and dad im gay?

Question

when they boath hate them gays or should i tell them i dont wanta but dunno

Answer 1

If you don't want to, don't. You know what's best for you.

Answer 2

1st of all ask Mom, can I talk to you, privately, need be, and ask her Mom you'd Love me no matter what right? Yes she'll say.
Well I've been experimenting in the change of my maturity and I believe I'm gay. "This my friend is leading up to the fact, u r." Pause, and give her a few min. to ubsorb the blow! Then you'll hear freaking out or: what makes u think that? how do u know that? are u sure? you can't be, we didn't raise u that way, oh my
God what r the family/neighbours goin think, bla, bla. I'm 50 yrs so just a "demo." Personally, I woudnt even care, but know how the older generation is some cool some not. And Sweety, Plse
whatever comes out of her mouth YOU have to justify by being calm, cool, and collective, then there's you're Back-Up, try to understand, help me, I didn't chose to be this way, if she's lookin
concerned, (Tears Help) Member r her son & she's had wife &
kids on her mind a Long Time...so break it ti her gently & she'll b
prepared to except & b on r side 4 the family's sake. Takes alot o
guts my friend, but I have so many gay family & friends means O
2 me. I just don't want an end to r family cause u r YOU & can't help the fact r body prefers men opposed to wo-man! That's like
prejudism 2 me & it is! So, give it r best shot is all u can do and if
she doesn't transform her ways, simply say "Mom I thought u'd b
open-minded about this, but obviously r not the person I thought u
were." In time she may come around. "Plse let me know how it works out 4 u????? I'm routing 4 ya!!!! All my Best Wishes!
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Answer 3

It depends on your situation. If you're an adult and have the ability to move out of home then its easier than if you're 14. If you're 14, then you may want to contact the school psychologist for help on this matter.

One thing which helps you in the coming out process is having support. The more support you have, the easier it becomes. Its like having an army on your side. You could come out to a close friend, or even a gay help/social group. The gay help/social group will offer you valuable support.

Your parents may be homophobic now, but that could change once they know that their own flesh and blood is part of the LGBT group.

Answer 4

Think about why you want to tell them. You should never feel pressured into coming out or making any decision like that.

Most importantly: make sure your in a safe situation before you tell them- i.e. if your living at home and have nowhere else to live it might not be a wise decision and for your own safety you should wait.

When I came out I gave my parents a leaflet about homosexuality, covering issues like 'is it the parents fault' or 'is it a sin'.. There's also support out there for parents, in the way of local support groups and wider national ones- like PFLAG in America and FFLAG in the UK. That may help them.

Knowing other gay people your age helps- whether you tell them or not.. There's loadsa stuff on the 'net you probably will have already seen and gay men's groups in your area..

Answer 5

Why don't you just say that you have something that is very important to you and that you need them to know that you are gay. I know it will be difficult for you, especially as you say, your parents hate gays, but I don't know how you will be able to keep it to yourself without feeling that you are alone. Sooner or later they will find out either by you telling them or by their own suspicions. I think the sooner you can talk it over with them the better your will feel. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like a tough situation, as if you are building up to an ugly scene with mum and dad? I would say, talk to trusted friends about when or if you should do this, and concentrate on building a network of supportive people, so that if telling your parents doesn't go well, you have others who will support you.

Answer 7

If you're old enough to move out on your own, I would tell them and move on with your life. If they love you unconditionally they will deal with it. They may not embrace it fully but they should respect you in any situation. You can live in a one room apartment or an efficency apartment. If not, you might want to locate a local gay and lesbian alliance group and ask for their help. They can offer support groups and educate your parents. Best of luck.

Answer 8

I agree with Jonah, only tell them if they're willing to be rational about it. If you know that they hate gay people, they'll probably either one: flake out because they don't know how to react, or two: hate you for being gay. If they really care about you, then eventually they'll accept you regardless, but if you have to deal with them and their beliefs directly, (like having to live with them) I recommend against it.
At least until moving out, or until you're absolutely certain that you'll stand up to them, however they react. Just remember, it's not their decision, and you should never listen to someone who would judge you for such a thing.

Answer 9

Hi, If you feel you need to tell them then go ahead, just sit them down. I do not know your parents so I will not judge them but even if they kick of, eventually they will get used to it. You are their son. When my son told me he was gay I welcomed him with open arms, the love for my son is unconditional no matter what. As long as he is happy then that is what counts. Good luck and god bless you sweetie.

Answer 10

they should love you no matter what your sexuality is
sit down with your mother and talk with her about it
ask her if she could be with you when you tell your dad so it won't be as awkward and strange.Tell them how you're still the same person except you like guys.Ask them why they have such a grudge against gay people.
I hope I could help
my friend's in the same dilema
he has'nt told his parents yet
because he's afraid of the reaction

Answer 11

It isn't any of their business. You don't have to tell anyone but your love interest. I don't know when people decided that sexual orientation is a public matter. If you feel the need to tell them then there is just one way. Just do it. Like ripping off a band-aid.