Would it be legal to stop buying food for your wife if all she does is sit around and get fat on your dime.?

Question

I work hard, do all the shopping, pay the bills etc. and she does nothing

Answer 1

try talking to her. Maybe join the gym together. Bring home some celebrity magazines, try to motivate her to do something in a positive way. Don't degrade her, it sounds like she is depressed or has nothing that brings that star in her eye. Compliment her cheer her up. Start buying healthy food. Ask her to do what you need. Sit down and ask her what she expects from you, try to be nice and tell her it would make you feel great if she could make you one of your favorite dishes because she made it. Be positive and you will get positive. Be negative and you will get nowhere.
good luck.
bye her flowers.

Answer 2

Legality is not the question, morality is. You married her I assume because you loved her. What has changed in your relationship to affect that? It sounds like she is depressed and feels possibly food is an alternative for affection. Are you spending more time at work or with your friends than you do with her? Talk to her, she probably holds the key.

Answer 3

Does your wife do your laundry? Does she cook for you and wash the dishes? Does she clean your house and your bathroom? Does she ever encourage you pertaining to your career? Is she raising/raised your children? I could make a longer list, but I won't.

Try to find a part of her to love and start treating her with more of it. Love from a husband can honestly make a woman forget candy and comfort food. I'm not blaming you. There's a need in her that's not being met. It could be from any of her contacts or family. But you live with her and I hope you try to make your life better for you both. @8-]

Answer 4

You are not obligated to feed her, when she does nothing to contribute to the household. You can start by refusing to buy snack foods and other fat causing junk. Tell her if she wants junk food, that she can get a job in order to support her habit.

Answer 5

Yes, you can start by not giving everything to her on a plate. The more you mollycoddle her, the more she will continue to become lazy and selfish. Show her that she has to start taking some responsibility for herself. Just stop doing stuff for her and she will have no choice but to start making some effort and contibuting more.

Take care : )

Answer 6

Why don't you just get a divorce? I'll bet she's less than impressed with you too. Sounds like you probably have your own "issues"; problems including but not limited to poor self-esteem. This article from the American Psychological Association's website may serve to edify:

'People low in self-esteem store their partner's positive and negative traits in functionally different memory categories, whereas people with high self-esteem more often integrate positive and negative information into one cohesive picture, creating a more positive overall image of their partner, according to an article in the April issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Vol. 90, No. 4).

In the study, the researchers had 70 undergraduates complete a self-esteem questionnaire. They then watched a computer screen flash positive or negative personality traits in either an alternating or nonalternating order. The participants pressed one of two keys as quickly as possible to indicate whether the trait words applied to their roommate. They then repeated the task to indicate whether the words applied to their computer.

When researchers asked the participants to make alternating positive and negative judgments about people, those low in self-esteem slowed down making their judgments, suggesting that they store their positive and negative judgments in separate areas of their memory. However, there was no change in speed when they rated their computer's qualities. The alternating traits had no effect on the judgment speed of participants high in self-esteem, suggesting that those participants almost always functionally integrate both positive and negative information in a single area in their memory, regardless of whether they are judging people or inanimate objects.

In another trial, the researchers asked 537 undergraduates to complete questionnaires assessing their self-esteem, how threatened they are by their partners' flaws and how much they integrate positive and negative thoughts about their partners. Participants with low self-esteem were less likely to integrate information about their partner than those with high self-esteem. Moreover, participants with low self-esteem felt more threatened by their partner's foibles.

According to the researchers, the results suggest that people low in self-esteem are more likely to report seeing their relationships as primarily good or bad at a given point in time, as well as more likely to report experiencing changes in perceptions of their partners over time than people high in self-esteem.

The findings may have important clinical implications in that clinicians could simultaneously work with clients on boosting their self-esteem and balancing their perceptions of their partners, says lead researcher Steven Graham, PhD, a psychology professor at Carnegie Mellon University".

Answer 7

Do some of the things you did when you were dating...perhaps if you are spending time finding fault with what she isn't doing right you are missing out on the good things you could be doing to make it happy for her and then of course for you.

Answer 8

It would be legal, but divorce is also legal and she will get your money to keep buying stuff. You get the gratification that she does have to take care after herself though.

Answer 9

It sounds like you want people to agree with you so you can do it. If you are unhappy with what is happening-talk to your wife. If nothing different happens then get the h*** out.

Answer 10

Get a Divorce