2007-02-28 08:43:08 · 12 answers · asked by blondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Got to renew the commitment somehow, via church or counseling. Good luck and don't give up.
2007-02-28 08:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have issues, but that doesn't mean we accept being mistreated b/c someone is going through a 'mid-life crisis'. Do what is in your own best interest and make it clear you will not tolerate being anything but first in your husband's life. Be willing to walk if necessary. That means preparing for that event, so you're not left in a bad situation. If you do so, it will increase your confidence and sense of security. I hope it turns out that you made unnecessary preparations. Check out the web page 'minnie pause' for some fun tips on menopause. Hang in there!
2007-02-28 08:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the same place, son 18 graduating senior, 2 daughters, one 2 yr community college is 20 just getting ready to move out, other daughter is 21 living 3 day drive away!!! married for 27 years, last 2 years almost divorced, he moved out(mid-life crisis), and I figured out that nothing matters but becoming friends again and learning to compromise on issues that it really won't matter about as time passes...I am way happier, we as a couple are doing better than ever(and seriously in love again) and our children are back on an even keel...you have to be friends first, i swear i didn't like my husband at all but that was because of all the conflict and the busy-ness of life...plan time to be together, surprise him with something sexy...you give first and it will come back to you.
2007-02-28 11:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty much like the run of the mill family. Do you want me to tell you it will get better? Well it will. Your gonna get over the menopause phase, your son will be completely on his own, and your hubby will realize the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence! Truly!! Just hang in there, and go with the flow, and tell your self this will all be in the past soon enough!!
2007-02-28 08:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
allow's merely call it a "Mid-existence 2d seem." LOL... trust it or no longer, he's grieving. He has lost his children and the feeling that his existence is in the front of him. try telling him this: maximum human beings stay to be about 80. he's barely halfway by existence. contained in the first 1/2, he had no administration over the first 18 to 20 years, so fairly... he's purely been in fee of his existence for about 20 years. Now, he's smarter and has about 40 extra to bypass. it truly is an finished different lifetime! purely this time, he receives finished administration... discover new and exciting activities to do at the same time, plan at the same time each of the exciting belongings you could comprise into your lives as a pair over the subsequent ten years. He desires the perspective that existence has fairly merely began, no longer ended... i wish that made sense... lol ...and if he's no longer keen to snatch existence by the kahunas and characteristic some exciting... then he definitiely desires to be smacked with the iron... LOLOL
2016-10-17 09:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through the same thing husband is 40 and I am 51. Children grown and on their own. Counseling can help and you both have to spend time talking and doing special things together in time it can get better. But it will take work You have to re commit to each other again.
2007-02-28 08:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some hormones sister, join a gym and keep yourself atractive for your husband. Arrange a second honeymoon. Try things differnt as a couple. 20 years is a long time and he may thing that he has seen all about you... start the fire back up and show him new tricks to keep him interested.
Good luck
2007-02-28 08:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya maybe just a little. But marriage is about commitment and working together....Counseling?
Just take one day at a time is all I can say.
2007-02-28 08:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to figure out why its strained and go from there,maybe you need to go back to the basics and start to date all over again with each other,try to spice things up and remember why you fell in love to begin with
2007-02-28 08:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what you are asking. But I have a feeling that you are under a great deal of stress, hang in there.
2007-02-28 08:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋