2007-02-28 08:42:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jealousy is an expression of insecurity.
Polyamorous people, because they have more than one concurrent lover, often need to deal with jealousy. They often have articles and areas on poly sites that provide help dealing with your own jealousy. Do a search for polyamory and you should find some. I know that www.polyamoryonline.org has a lot of articles and some pertain to dealing with Jealousy. www.polyweekly.com had an entire podcast (a good one) dealing solely with handling one's own jealousy.
2007-02-28 08:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to take a deep breathe. Why are you so jealous? Did something happen in your current relationship, or in your past to make you so nervous about your current relationship? I was married for 10 years to a man that completely crushed me, by cheating, and demeaning me. I finally smartened up and got a divorce three years ago. I am in a new relationship and I too struggle with jealous at times. BUT I have started to try and remind myself that my past has nothing to do with my future, and that man that I am currently in a relationship with has never done anything to make me doubt him. Trust is a very hard thing to regain when you have been hurt. You may want to seek some personal counseling. Just because you reach out for help does not mean you are weak...it means you are willing to make positive changes in your life. You already have taken the first step...acknowledgment!
Good luck...and remember to breathe! =)
2007-02-28 08:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by happiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ruining my relationship too. I guess you just have to take a deep breath and just let it go. Has he given you a reason to think he is p to something? Mine stems from my own insecurities about myself and the relationship. Does the same affect you too? Perhaps you have been betrayed in the past, if so, just remember not everyone is like that, have a little faith and trust.
2007-02-28 08:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a wasted emotion. Try to remember that you are not always in control of your circumstances but you are always in control of the way you respond to them. Work on maintaining that control. You can do it!! Don't let it ruin your marriage, it is so not worth it.
2007-02-28 08:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have keep in mind that if someone doesn't want to be with you well he/ she will not. If he/she married you is becuase he/she want to be with you not with any other person. You should try to talk to him/her and if there something you need to change or do for you love to always be between you and him/her. Make sure you do change becuase sometimes that can ruin your marriage and is not worth it.
2007-02-28 08:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by ITALY06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not trusting your mate. If you can't trust, you can't have a relationship.
You didn't say if there is an actual reason to be jealous either. Is your spouse a good one?
2007-02-28 08:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT THIS I READ A COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO ON THIS SITE. SOMEONE WAS ASKING ABOUT BEING WITH A PERSON WHO HAS BPD AND AT FIRST I THOUGHT THAT MEANT "BI-POLAR DISORDER". BUT IT DIDN'T, IT MEANT "BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER". YOU SHOULD DO SOME RESEARCH ON IT. HOWEVER, THE MORE I DELVED INTO IT, THE LESS LIKELY IT SAID IT WAS FIXABLE. DO A GOOGLE ON IT AND READ UP ON IT. MAYBE YOU CAN FIND SOME HELP BY LEARNING WHY YOU DO WHAT YOU DO.
2007-02-28 08:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy stems from either insecurity or not trusting your mate. That being said those things are not always your fault. If you have caught your mate lying to you, having inappropriate boundaries with others, if he/she has hurt you in the past or has been disrespectful/abandoning or ignoring towards you you may have legitimate reasons you feel this way. I always say if a relationship is toxic get out. No one is worth the head games. I am not a jealous person by nature at all, Im probably one of the least jealous guys around however I was very jealous and insecure in my last relationship because she was always shoving other guys in my face and telling me how great they were and spending great deals of time with them (wether it was her ex husband, a male friend of hers, someone on facebook etc) and she put minimal effort not our relationship compared to me. It became very negative and something was off. I am now in a relationship where I hardly ever get jealous because my girlfriend doesn't do that kind of childish stuff.
2017-02-26 12:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you jealous of? you have some issues you need to work out maybe. Seek therapy
2007-02-28 08:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i learned jeolousy doesn't keep the husband from flirting or cheating
2007-03-04 07:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋