Wife and I are very solid and I would like to see her with another man. I have brought this up before during S*x and it made her very hot. How do I find out if she wants to do that? Are there signs?
2007-02-28 08:30:28 · 33 answers · asked by needingitnow342000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because she was excited by this during sex doesn't mean that she'll actually go there. Sit down with her and tell her what you would like to do "For Her", not for you. Realize that she may want to be with another man but might not want you to watch. Also realize that if you do this for her it's not a guarantee that she'll be comfortable with you having sex with another woman any time soon. As a woman this can be a very stimulating experience (different man than your husband) but once the line is crossed and if she really enjoys herself you can't expect it to be the last time she does this. Just some food for thought!
2007-02-28 08:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a long talk with her, make sure it is what she wants, and make sure it is what you want. If so, then move up step by step. Create some hypothetical scenarios and see what her reactions and yours as well would be. Don’t forget, you have to make sure you can deal with good and bad things. You know, he could make her get a more intense orgasm than you do (and it makes sense since she would be very hot because of the thrill of a new adventure). What would you do? Are you going to be jealous?
And after is all done, is she going to feel ok or is she gonna feel low? Are you going to look at her the same way after you see her drinking his sperm and enjoying it? have you stop to think about it for real? Is that what you want?
If your answer (and hers) is yes, then you are ready for the real thing. But you have to ask one more thing. Are you willing to risk your good health too? You have to remember that STDs are around every corner. So you two need to be very protected.
The best thing to do is to search for local swing clubs and see if you can join one near your area where the members are serious and take care of themselves. That is the safest way to do this kind of things, and the best way to enjoy them too as you can worry less about catching any STD.
Now, one more thing, if you actually go ahead with this, you have to let your wife decide if she is going to choose the guy or if you are, or both together. And have a “safe flag” predetermined. If any of you decide not to go ahead at the last second, or even during the act anybody freaks out, use that flag. It can be a word, or a move, or anything. Just agree that both of you will stop everything if that flag is up.
Good luck, have fun, and be safe!
2007-02-28 08:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY!!!! If my husband wanted to see me with another man we would have a problem, but that's just me. Some people are strange when it comes to what they want. Just ask her how she felt when you told her you would like to see her with another man and see how she responds when you are not having sex.
Good Luck
2007-02-28 09:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by ccl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to see her with another man...may I suggest PHOTO SHOP. Safest route.
Other wise if you want to start swinging. Maybe you should see a counselor before heading in that direction.
2007-02-28 08:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her about it. If you have brought it up before just say, you know I mentioned before and just wanted to bring it up and see what you thought. Pretty easy thing to do.
2007-02-28 08:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by beaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask, but this will change your relationship. How can it not? If you are solid as you say, maybe a fantasy should remain just that. Just something to think about.
2007-02-28 08:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Can you really handle watching the woman you love obtain sexual pleasure from another man? And what if she gets even more turned on from him than you??
2007-02-28 11:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want that? What if she decides she likes it better with someone else than you? Be careful what you wish for, you are opening a dangerous box here!
2007-03-05 16:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it, start the conversation out slowly. I have asked my husband to be with me and another female before.
But realize once she has been with that other guy everytime you have s*x with her you will wonder if she is thinking of you or of him...
2007-02-28 08:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by yep-it-is-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You brought it up during sex so why not just bring it up at the dinner table and see what she says.
2007-02-28 08:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋