i'm tired of always being agreeable and holding my own frustration and resentment inside. do i need to speak up, step on people's neck, and get nasty to get what i want? i already know the answer to this, doesn't matter what you all say, y'all say "be nice" so you can take advantage of me. just want to announce this to the virtual community cuz you're all my friends!
but i admit it'll take some time to adjust my attitude, this new me. but i'm determined and if any of you get in my way, i'll call you out, and bust a cap in your butt! ha ha. kidding. maybe...
xoxo
2007-02-28 08:19:17 · 16 answers · asked by JB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why is niceness viewed as a weakness? people suck. ahh... i'd rather be pleasant. i don't have much of a choice do i? sorry mom..
2007-02-28 08:41:44 · update #1
Hey I used to be like you. Now I am agreeable, but only in situations where it isn't at my expense. Say for example someone asks me to go with them shopping but then they ask me to drive. I'll say no...sorry I don't have much money for gas this week, you drive. You don't have to get nasty with people to say no, you don't want to do that. Find creative and indirect ways to let people down. I've had to learn this the hard way.
2007-02-28 08:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that being nice isn't your problem here. I don't know your whole story but, it seems like you are feeling under appreciated or maybe you helped someone and when the time came to call back the favor you got the short end of the stick. Well here is reality being nice is not the problem; saying no doesn't make you bad. You make the decisions in your life. For example: I have a great girlfriend, a great job, and a good life and I never was required to step on peoples necks and get "nasty" to get here, but I have told many people I can't help them. For the last bit of my opinion anything that requires you "stepping" on peoples necks or getting "nasty" doesn't seem like something that can benefit you in life.
2007-02-28 16:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by doctorgiantsquid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice people sometimes finish last, but better to be the last because once someone gets to you they might never go to another!! Those people who choose the nice ones will actually appreciate having someone like that. I understand how you feel...it takes a lot of strength to be a really good person, and unfortunately we often get our hearts broken. But, when all is said and done, as long as you know that you have always tried to be good to people, you have nothing to feel guilty for. Those "nasty" people may get what they want right away, but seldom keep it. In the end there is only one judge for how we lived. So live with a sense of happiness knowing that you were the best person you could be. God Bless!
2007-02-28 16:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by gidget0029 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a HUGE difference between being nice and being agreeable to everything and holding in your frustration. Not speaking out is not being nice - in fact, its rather rude. No one wants to be around someone who doesn't have a mind of their own. Start saying what you REALLY think. It gets easier the more you do it - AND you can be nice while you're doing it!
2007-02-28 16:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to let it out and tell people how you feel, dont be a stepping stone for others. Nice people do finish last. So get a back bone, tell it like it is and hopefully people will stop walking all over you.
2007-02-28 16:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
why does everyone feel that being nice is such a bad thing, you can be nice and speak your mind. changing your ways to the bad is not always the good, changing your ways to make sure that you are not always the one who gets walked over is a good thing so i say no nice guys don't always finish last if they know how to stand up for themselves. and standing up for yourself is all you need to do.
2007-02-28 16:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if they are in the buffet line with a bunch of fat guys. Nice people do not always finish last. Sometimes but not always.
2007-02-28 16:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Nice people are an elite group. We tend to be the ones that people want to crap over. Mostly they can't be us :) Stand your ground do not let anyone mess with the best...
2007-02-28 16:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the people who think nice people finish last will finish last. Nice people have a pure heart, when they die they'll go to heaven and mean people will go to hell.
2007-02-28 16:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by zelrio28 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no they don't have too
you can be nice and still have your opinion known
words hurt more then punches
learn to say something so nice it hurts
2007-02-28 16:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋