My husband is in baghdad and i dont have any friends to really talk to. Im in the army too so its really lonley with just me and my 4 month old son. I need some adults to talk to.
2007-02-28 08:16:58 · 21 answers · asked by hottymines 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I suggest you take a class at a local community college in a subject you might be interested in (photo, art, design, whatever). Inevitably, you'll meet people and who knows you might even make a bunch of friends....and do not use the excuse that you can't because you have a child. Find a teenager who needs cash and they can baby-sit for a small fee. Good luck and thank you for serving our country :)
2007-02-28 08:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by MichiganRocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have written this question means you have access to pc and internet. Try doing something which adds to your knowledge using the internet. like surf some interesting subject you like to read or learn some cooking or baby care or how to keep you motivated in this kind of situation. Loneliness is also a bliss when used wisely. Make sure you do something legitimate so that it wont leave you with regrets. I also suggest if you dont have internet use the computer learn all that it has. If you find it boring, you have your 4 months child which is the best thing happened to you. Play with your child, be with it every second and try to be a child you will see more happiness coz children are innocent and they give you energy with their actions. Also, bringing up a child would be one the best thing that can happen to you and may not repeat again n again. if you have no interest in any of these, write about yourself in a piece of paper and learn what are your strengths and weakness as a human being. Work on what you can make it better. Hope this helps ..
All the best!!
2007-02-28 08:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your job is to keep the 'home fires burning', so focus on that task. If you have a chance to go back to school, that would offer long term benefits and give you a chance to interact with other adults. It doesn't matter if it's a computer class at a local tech school or college courses. Keeping a journal can sometimes be helpful. Call your parents often. Select a topic to study that you can become absorbed in...anything to distract you from the fact that your husband is deployed. Good Luck
2007-02-28 08:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband's unit have an FRG (Family Readiness Group)? My husband is deployed too. However, his unit has an FRG. We are going to get together in March to try to get to know each other a little better. I know what you are going through....the weekends are the toughest. You can find chores and things to do, but that gets old really fast. Buy a book or go to the gym. I'm in Fayetteville, NC. If you are close to there post and let me know. I would love to make some new friends. I just moved her a few months ago to get married. This is my second deployment with my husband.
2007-02-28 08:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had a lot of friends that move back in with their parents or his parents while he is deployed. It helps alleviate the loneliness of living by yourself, and for those that went back to their own parents, they had all their old friends to contact and hang out with again.
Most bases also have lots of mother's groups for wives with deployed husbands. Contact the inlisted/officers club and ask if they know where you could get more information. The military usually does a good job of taking care of the family while the soldier is deployed.
If you feel like you're getting depressed and can't handle things, contact your doctor ASAP. They can recommend counselors, therepy and possibly meds to help take the edge off while you adjust.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 08:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for people in your situation. It's so hard - I've watched my friends go through it. One spent her time going to the bar - not something I would recommend. Here are some suggestions:
1. Join a Mommy and Me group.
2. If you work, ask a co-worker you want to get to know better if they want to have a drink, go to lunch, shopping or something.
3. Find a church to go to. Not only is it a great place to make friends, but it can be very comforting.
2007-02-28 08:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then get out and FIND some adults to talk to. Go to church, join a gym, take a class at a local college or vocational school, check the Post you are stationed at for activities. You're not going to get to know anyone by sitting at home whining.
2007-02-28 08:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this must be a very lonely time for you. Try to find a church where you can become involved. Pray that the Lord will lead you to the best church for you. They will support you emotionally when they know your needs. Schedule an appointment with the pastor and tell him your needs.You might also meet other ladies there who have the same situation and need friends like you. Thank you for all you do to keep us free! You are appreciated. God Bless You.
2007-02-28 08:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest starting a scrapbook of your lives together. You can put past things in your book that you have already done and future things that you want to do. It would also be a moment of sharing when the two of you get back together. Also it will keep your mind focused in a positive direction , plus act as a hobby and keep you busy. Good luck to you and your family, my prayers are with you.
2007-02-28 08:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your son for a walk. Go to the local mall and hang out there. I'm sure there is other wives out there in the same boat. Go out and look for someone. They won't come to you. Good luck and God bless!
2007-02-28 08:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋