I'm in high school,my boyfriend used to come see me every monday and wednesday.So last wednesday he came to see me at school,but the problem is I was with my cousin,and I got scared.I didn't know what to do,I just talk to him on the phone telling him that I'm not coming near him cause my cousin were there.At first he was all right and after a little while he was still waiting for me to come so I didn't.He got mad and left,I didn't he left.I called him you know asking where he at,then he said that you saw me leaving now you asking where am I?By the way he talked to me that day,I can see that he was mad and I didn't talk to him during 9 days.Today,I finally call him to clarify certain things, and he said that he wasn't mad,he just don't like the way I did it.I really love him you know,it just that I don't want my parents to find that out right now.I know he understands that it just that day he left what he was doing to come see and I turned him down like this.I wanna know what to do.
2007-02-28 08:12:56 · 14 answers · asked by Sandra T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't love him. Here are 2 reasons.
1. This wouldn't be an issue.
2. You're in high school. You're one of those brats who thinks they're in love every time they think a boy is cute.
Good day, oh inconsiderate one.
2007-02-28 08:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by zelrio28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u can't tell anyone then maybe u should think about not having a relationship until u can put your whole heart into it.That can make someone feel really bad even if u didn't mean it.Before u both get really hurt u should either stop seeing him or tell your parents that u r with him n love him.I'm not sure on your age but if u r to young n really love 1 another then he will wait.He will wait until u r of age and a loud to date.
2007-02-28 16:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very important ? is why do you feel it necessary to hide this guy from your cousin & your family?? "relationships must be built on a strong foundation of honesty & communication." You should be thankful he was willing to forgive you for "shunning" him. . . . & if you haven't already, you should apologize & then talk to your cousin & your family & tell them you like this guy & that you want them to meet him ... & ask if you can have him over for dinner or something. Honesty is the best policy. Also, if by some chance this were to be the "real thing" - you certainly would want your family to be a part of your life & your future -
2007-02-28 16:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT okay!!! he is your bf, you can't just ignore him like that.and if you really love him as much as you say you do, then you shouldn't care about your parents knowing. if you keep ignoring him around your fam like this, he's gonna get the wrong idea. so just- think how you would feel if he did this to you. i know i'd be mad, even if only a little. but if he kept it up- there'd be some problems. so just stop ignoring him- don't make such a big deal out of such a little thing.
2007-02-28 16:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by vanessa v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready to share him with your family,then your not ready to have a relationship with him.Regardless if you think he understands or not,how fair is it to him that you act like that around your family members,also the fact that you obviously don't trust your cousin,that you think they would say something about it.If you don't let your family know about him you will lose him,because he will eventually get tired of it.So I suggest you decide something soon.Wouldn't you rather be open with your family about your relationship than to be sneaking around,and they find out anyway.Be honest with your family and with him,he probably feels that if you really cared about him,you would be happy to share that with your family.Think about it
2007-02-28 16:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in high school? Why don't you want your parents to know you're dating this guy? Is he a "bad boy"? Your bf might tolerate this now, but he won't for long. Eventually he'll want someone a little more grown up who isn't embarrassed by him. You need to clear this up. Tell your parents about him. Introduce him to your family and say you're sorry again to your bf.
2007-02-28 16:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually u have humiliated him and made him feel ashame that
you didnt want him around. U are lucky he forgave u for it.
If you really like this fellar, u better treat him better or he will
move on to a lady that will treat him with more respect.
2007-02-28 16:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him so much and are that serious about him then why are you ignoring him when family members are around....after all they should know who the special person is that you love and also it shows the person you love that they are special to you because you want your family to know about them
2007-02-28 16:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really loe this guy, you shouldn'y be ashamed. now i know that sounds cheesy, but its true, he will think hes not worth it to you.
so let him know you care, otherwise, well, put yourself in his position, ifyour boyfriend started ignoring you whenever his family was ar4ound how would you feel? why? and dont you think your mature enouh to handle ths?
well i have givin you my advice. good luck.
2007-02-28 16:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by basketball_dancediva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont diss him cause he is going to get tired of it and you are going to loose him. Tell your parents you are seeing him and bring him to meet them. Honesty is the best policy.
2007-02-28 16:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Super Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋