Is she really moving on?

Question

My girlfrined and I were together for a year and 5 months, we recently broke up for stupid reasons, her friends hate me, why I dont know, what I do know is she says that she has given me alot of chances to prove to her that I love her, Its been about 2 weeks since the break up, I realized that I really do love her and need her, she says that I hurt her too bad for her to come back, I have completley changed and I am ready to treat her the way she deserves to be treated, but she wont come back, she has been out to a couple parties, I am worried that she is talking to somone else, how do I get her to come back to me?

Answer 1

GET OFF HER BACK GIRLS DONT LIKE IT WHEN THEY DONT HAVE THERE SPACE TO BREATHE LET HER GO

Answer 2

Ah....the quick reflection and discovery that you can't live without her. Sorry! I doubt you've done a complete 180 in only two weeks, and I don't think it's time to b.s. this girl. It sounds like she's already got your number. But if you want this girl back, you'll need to stay in the picture. Select a sweet card and send her a couple of flowers in a vase...think of something creative to say in the card. She may want you to chase her--so do it. If she won't consider going out with you again, you'll need to become her best friend and be there to help her with whatever she may need. So, after you've talked with her if she still rejects her leave the door open by telling her that you are truly sorry, and that if she needs anything to let you know. Your next move will then be to actually follow through and provide the help whatever it is, a ride somewhere, helping with a home project, school, whatever. It may take time to convince her that you're sincere, but in the meantime your continued presence will be enough to keep the other guys at bay. Good Luck

Answer 3

Obviously you are not as important to her as you think because is been only two weeks after being together for a year and a half and she already has been not to one but two parties!

I don’t think she is moving on, I think she already did! You lost the chance there. Now if you want to get her back, is up to you to try to talk to her. But don’t expect miracles. And don’t lie to her either.

And when I say don’t lie, I mean that if you are going to tell her something, don’t let it sound obvious you are lying, like in your question “I realized that I really do love her and need her, she says that I hurt her too bad for her to come back, I have completley changed and I am ready to treat her the way she deserves to be treated”

Please, it sounds like a bunch of BS.

Good luck though, and if you loose her, take it like a man.

Answer 4

There is an old adage that actions speak louder than words. Two weeks isn't enough time for some sort of transformation on your part, so that's a load of bull. Maybe you should try internalizing so you can figure out how your part in the relationship failed. People don't "hate" you for no reason. A relationship should be something you give to and not just take from.

Answer 5

First you can not get someone to come back to you if they do not want to come back. If you have changed as much as you say you have then don;t push her into being with you let her see the changes that you have made for her self. What ever you do don;t make her feel like you are stalking her, remember you are not her boyfriend anymore so this is really her time to see what she wants to do with her life with out you being her shadow. If you have changed then I would suggest that you go out and spend time with other people and give your self the opportunity to grow up ,and be loved by someone that wants to love you and be with you as you love them. Its hard when you don't realize what you have until its gone. I wish you all the best.

Answer 6

You can't. It's time for you to start healing. Stop nagging her and move on with your life. Maybe when she sees you have moved on maybe she will want you again. Don't give her a second chance. Nobody deserves the way she has been treating you. Start doing what you want to do and forget about her. It's for your own good. I wish you the best!

Answer 7

if she is hurt than chances are that she still loves u. just go to her tell her what is in your heart. show her by your actions that u are serious, but u must be willing to wait until she regains trust for u, it will not happen over night. depends on the type of hurt she had to face, she is just afraid u will do it again to her, so she fears investing herself again, she fears more hurt. she may be talking to someone else, and that u are just going to have to accept for now. just keep trying and be persistent. persistence gets u somewhere while giving up will just end it. she does probably think she has been more than fair, with the chances. it is hard to trust once trust has been broken. just hang in there no matter what and she may come around eventually.

Answer 8

You can't. It's time for you to learn that when you mess up there isn't always a fix. Sometimes you can screw up so badly that you lose forever. Take this lesson to heart and let her go. If you really have changed then show the next girl that comes into your life that you can treat her well.

Answer 9

You can only be the new man you are and hope. If not YOU need to give your new found change a chance with someone else.

Answer 10

You don't "need" her. But when she dumped you, your interest in her skyrocketed (old folks call it "love sickness"). BTW, her friends are blockers. Look up the term because it might be helpful to know how to react to those in the future.

You hurt her? What did you do? She dumped you.

Who cares who she talks to? She dumped you. it's over.

Answer 11

if u want to prove to her that u really love her u have to made her understand and do something she would like or a love song